I was raised JW and of course the whole theory that a man is the head and the woman must respect her husband and be in subjection to his authority was ingrained in me from a young age. My mother, (oddly enough) chose the JW religion, dragged my father in kicking and screaming (he later served as an elder for 17 years) and she complained constantly about men being in control and her pains as a woman in subjection.
Now, I already have a good idea about my mother's problems. But I wonder why IN THE HELL would any conscientious woman choose a belief system that would enslave her to her significant other? Why would any woman with female children even consider raising their daughters to subject themselves to another human male or female?
At the risk of sounding offensive, I don't believe that one human being holds power over another, outside of social boundaries that must be in place for an organized society (if you murder someone you have to go to jail, the police hold that authority so we can have a peaceful existence etc. ) and I do not believe that having a penis (can I say penis here?) enables you to somehow have more knowledge and expertise than someone who has a vagina (there it is again...those awkward words...).
My husband and I try to live by the rule of thumb-whoever is best at the given topic takes the lead in that area and the other will typically give in. But each of us hold our strengths and weaknesses and with honesty we are able to reach agreement most of the time-without me bowing to all his wishes. That's how adults do things-do we really need to have the whole 'there can only be one driver on a ship...' theory to make our lives work?
Any thoughts???