What are men scared of??? (page 2)

Yerusalyim

What am I as a man afraid of? A near sighted Mohyl (the Jewish guys that do the circumcisions).

YERUSALYIM
"Vanity! It's my favorite sin!"
[Al Pacino as Satan, in "DEVIL'S ADVOCATE"]

Billygoat

What am I as a man afraid of? A near sighted Mohyl (the Jewish guys that do the circumcisions).

Yikes, Yeru! I'm scared and I'm a woman!

Andi

Seeker

You know what I look for in a woman? Intelligence, confidence, humor. I'm not afraid of smart, confident women. I yearn for intelligence. The smarter the better.

Why do some men fear confident, smart women? Lack of self-confidence.

JanH

Seeker,

Why do some men fear confident, smart women? Lack of self-confidence.

I agree. Of course, men will really need solid self-confidence to go through adolescence with it intact, considering how western "mating-rituals" work.

What really annoys me is intelligent women who put on "fake stupidity" and hide their intelligence. One can of course argue that the real intelligence can't be too high after all in those cases... They usually get the guys they deserve I guess.

Add to this that strong, intelligent women often end up having "issues", garbage from past experiences and relationships that always raises its ugly head when you get to know them better.

- Jan
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"Doctor how can you diagnose someone with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and then act like I had some choice about barging in here right now?" -- As Good As It Gets

ISP

Is it fear? I am not scared of any of the traits mentioned here. What I would say is that women who are articulate, intelligent etc. should also be cool. I've come across too many who are simply a pain in the ass. They are in your face... over bearing. Its a matter of dislike not fear. Women in power is Ok. I just like them to handle it well...well don't we always

ISP

lauralisa

Hi Andi,

Just a thought.... or two

Some people thrive on chaos; a threatening weather condition, TV on full blast for background noise, no predictable schedules... loud family interchanges with plenty of debate... these types of circumstances feel normal to them.

Others can only bear life in a calm serene lakeside home and all of their financial obligations are accounted for and documented weekly, with back-up copies on file in alphabetical order. They HATE conflict of any kind. Their roles within the household are clearly defined, and there is no argument over who's territory is who's....

Of course, the vast majority of people fall somewhere between these two extremes. The illustration may be useful though, at least when it comes to addressing your question.... it may be a temperament thing, as well as a gender-based thing. Women have traditionally occupied the roles of the "soothers" and mediators. Fred wants to come home and have Wilma make it all feel better, because he is the star of the show. And don't even get me started on what Betty's role is.

I'm getting ready to go away for a few days of lakeside! So I'm in a silly mood! I can't wait!!!!!!! But perhaps the above adds to your food for thought.

Take care,

lauralisa

cat1759

I read your post Joel and while I agree with you that sometimes when so many need you and you are their only caregiver it does get frustrating. I raise three boys and one girl after my divorce. I am not stupid or spineless after having to deal with three boys. I don't have paper certificates because I never had the chance until now to go to college.

The line I used to hear alot was "Wow, you have four kids." Yes I do! That would be the end of that. Now these same guys want to date me with their four kids. NO way am I taking care of more kids for anyone. I don't mind if I am single the rest of my life.

When I rushed around for basketball games, baseball games, for three boys and still had to find time to take care of my daughter..and work 15hrs a day to make ends meet...You are sure I am not going to make more work for myself.

Why do men expect us to take care of their brood when they don't want anything to do with us when we are raising our brood? Help from someone would have been nice.
These are just my personal thoughts about this subject. Don't get upset.
cathy

dins

I'm with Billygoat on this one...same circumstances and wondering the same thing.

I once had a boyfriend who said he admired me for my independent spirit but wanted me to do what he said. Contradiction!

Sounds like there are some fearless men here...anybody interested:D

Diana

VeniceIT

I hear ya Andi! I scare them off all the time, hmmm wonder if its' the laugh HAHAHHAHAHAHHA!!!!

Ven

"Injustice will continue until those who are not affected by it are as outraged as those who are."

Seeker

Is this turning into a dating service thread?

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