by Edict Of Death 34 Replies latest social relationships
what do you think would happen if she told her parents she wanted out?
It would be very hard for her for the next 2 years until she was able to leave home, and that's assuming she would be in a situation financially to leave home at 18. They would probably restrict her more in an effort to keep her from whatever evil influences were causing her to doubt their faith. She would be pushed to study more, do more, pray more, etc.
Jackie
that religion really doesn't allow much room for human nature. it even tries to police people's intimate behaviour with one another. then again, how old are you two? teenagers? well, then add to the USUAL parental restrictions (which are nature's way of weeding out the rifraf and pushing kids together heehee) to an extreme sectarian view, then yes, you are dealing with a romeo and juliet situation. the jw clan decided long ago that noone from the nonjw clan would marry their daughters. ////// religion aside, they may fear their daughter is unready for the responsibilities of a serious relationship. and if there are many guys after her, their guard will be up all the more so. they know from personal experience how much a young man has yet to learn in life. it's just a fear thing, which is also natural, just taken to an extreme with the JWs. ////// i'm glad you aren't taking it too personally and can see that their rules apply to all guys. (although, if a man in a good political position in their religion wanted their daughter, they'd be more likely to approve of that) rest assured, there are many good reasons why nature put it in us to be attracted to one another when we are young, as well as many good reasons why nature put it in parents to be cautious and protective of their young. try and remain balanced in respecting their emotions on this, even as you must do what you must to seek to learn to be man enough to love and cherish their daughter to the best of your ability, in spite of the seeming obstacles. /////// i wish you guys a happily ever after.
well they already thought she was possessed by the devil and so much has happened. it's just i can't call her she has to call me at night and we use to seem far apart though now adays i pick her up at night and we have time to be together. i was thinking of spending time with her with her parents knowing of it but that wouldn't work out at all though i have no idea of what they would do. is there anything i can do now? or do we have to wait it out for two years?
well thank you for all your advice i'll be sure to try my hardest. like i have been and i guess i will keep there emotions in mind though they think mine don't matter.
I don't see any way you could possibly win them over. I believe you will probably just have to wait it out the two years and figure out what to do once she is old enough to make decisions free of her parents.
Jackie
oh, the waiting is half the fun. lol ... sorry to hear they're being so extreme though about devil possession and stuff. it's hard to offer any real tangible suggestions without really knowing the full ins and outs of your situation. i'd say work your ass off to get through school with flying colours and to work and build up your abilities to make your way in life and the answers will come to you as you go. the busier you are with that stuff (which still works towards the goal of being with her, in a way) the faster the time will fly.
how they deal with her can also depend on whether shes baptised or not.
interesting username btw.
even if you can't see each other for now, write lots of love notes too. ;) keep the communication alive as much as possible.
i'm not sure if she is bapitised, well thank you all alot i never got to talk to anyone about this that knew what was going on, they all thought her parents are crazy. well my mother still thinks her dad is but i have a good idea of what i should do.
i'd say work your ass off to get through school with flying colours and to work and build up your abilities to make your way in life and the answers will come to you as you go. the busier you are with that stuff (which still works towards the goal of being with her, in a way) the faster the time will fly.
This is excellent advice, I hope you follow through on it.
Jackie
