I was oversensative when I 1st left in 1992, I was 18 feeling scared, worried, excited, and wanting acceptance (there were probably a few other emotions in there too). Because all my close JW friends could no longer talk to me once I was DFd (inclucing mom and dad), I felt the need for acceptance, so therefore I was a people pleaser. Not that I do not like pleasing people, I enjoy doing things for others because it makes me feel good, but I used to worry so much about how people thought of me. When people joked around, I did not always get it...hence lack of experience. Or someone talked to me with a certain tone, and I would worry about it way too much. Deep down, I know why I felt the way I did.
I was raised in the industrial business, and to this day, I am still in the industrial business (special print fasteners, research, buying, and selling). Having been oversentative due to the JW thing and also combined with me being young, I just needed to toughen up a bit. So, fast forward to me being 34 now, I am much stronger, my joke telling is outstanding (HA), learned to pick my friends more wisely, I have thicker skin, and the list goes on. It just takes time, I find that I do not have to fight all the battles so to speak, its that "dirt off your shoulders" type of thing that I had to practice, "practice makes perfect". Being in the industrial business, with my line of work, you just can't be sentative, you need to be strong and fair.
So, I am happy that the experience of being a former JW helped me with my future/career, my thick skin, and as I matured along, it got easier and easier to be "non-sensative" in a balanced way. I am still learning and always will be, part of continuous life experience.