Wendy,
Please don't take offense here, you have to remember that there is probably a thread like yours once a week or so. Yes the jw's are a cult. How much research have you done about cults, thought reform, mind control, etc....? I am not a jw, never been, my husband joined up a few years back. I too thought if he could just see the scriptures as they really are without the wt glasses he would come to his senses, that didn't work. Those that say all you need is the Bible have never dealt with a jw. Then I tried the scandals, that didn't work. I have tried nearly every method possible (including Hasaan's). You underestimate the power the wt has over it's members. It doesn't matter what crazy thing thing the wt comes out with as long as its all for jah the members will blindly follow along because they and they alone are led by God. Think you can compete with God? What? its not run by God? prove it. In order to prove it you will have to actually voice your opposition to the fds which makes you an opposer and he will ask if you have been talking to 'apostates' which in turn will shut his brain down and he will get the glazed look of every jw when they must defend the wt. The circle for you begins, round and round you will go.
You may decide you can live with his jwism and choose to spend your life with him. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink, you can plant the seeds..... If you live with a jw here is how it goes, the org comes first! no matter what, the wt will decide his clothing and hair cut and of course facial hair even if it would hide some horrible defect, the wt will decide which movies, books, games and entertaiment is allowed in your house, the wt will decide your intimate sexual life, the wt will decide how much time your lovely husband is allowed to spend with you if choose not to go to meetings to be 'together' at the cult meetings, they may decide your vacations as well, if the convention is some distance for you your hubby may want to use his vacation time to go and of course the wt decides what hotel you can stay in, should you have children the wt will decide if they live or die should they need blood, your spouse needs a tetnus shot? he may procrastinate because he doesn't know if it is allowed or not and decide to play it safe and not get it, Do you get the idea yet what your life will be like with a man who has handed his brain over to a dangerous and deadly cult yet?
You needn't give up hope but people here are just trying to make you aware of what you are in for if you get involved with him. How is it you fell for him and didn't realize he was a jw to begin with? Because he's such an upfront an honest kind of guy? By the way, nobody has mentioned 'theocratic warfare' to you yet. Jw's are allowed and even encouraged to lie to non jw's when they feel it is necessary. We non jw's are not worthy of truth. Think your hot honey is above that? think again.
