Do you ever miss it? Ever?

AK - Jeff

For me - rarely would be the correct word. I don't miss the indoctrination. I don't miss the wasted time in service. But sometimes - just occasionally - I miss the ready made friends, the lunches after the meetings, the occasional invite to some-one's home to spend time together. In other words - the social connections.

I have made a few new friends since leaving - but honestly I am mostly a loner now. At 50+ it is not easy for me to do the 'make friends' thing. Family commitments fill up large chunks of my time and energy [we are raising our Grandmunchkins Three]. My recreational time in summer is mostly about playing golf - a solitary sport, even when played in a group.

Just every once in a while I get the urge to go back - though I know I would not be allowed from their perspective [I am DA'd now] to be a part of the little club at the Kingdom Hall. I don't want to do it really - but from time to time the thought pierces my thinking before I purge it. Today I had to purge that thought. Perish the day!

Ever have those thoughts?

Jeff

sacolton

Lemme think ... no.

yumbby

I never was accepted even when I was a witness, I never could figure out why, so no. I NEVER miss it. Not anything about it.

Satanus

I will never go back. But, when i think about it, i miss the social stuff, too. At least, you have your family.

S

Mr. Majestic

Faith was a big thing for me to lose. That I miss very much.

Never liked the format of being a JW. Don’t miss that at all.

ScoobySnax

I do Jeff.. I'm getting on with my life, but still look back sometimes. Its not a bad feeling for me either like many on here. Just a torn feeling. You look after yourself bud.

wings

No and yes. I miss being happily married (or pretending to be, JW's are good at pretending, I think it is one of the foundation teachings) I miss my home, my life, my friends. I do have many JW friends I love.

But then reality bites,

and I am glad to be working on real.

drew sagan

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that most (if not all) people who joined the religion by choice probably do look back and miss certain aspects of it. I know I have. Those who where raised in it can have a very different experience.

In reference to myself (who joined by choice) I can only say that every time I look back and miss it I'm never really thinking of the religion per se, but rather the idealized view I had of the group before I joined. Once I remember how the ideals put forth by the Watchtower can never really be honestly achieved the feeling begins to pass.

Hope4Others

Ah Yes the ready made friends, the ones who pretend to be your friends because its the christian duty thing. Its funny after leaving I thought I had loads of friends not one

called to see what was up? I do have the hubby we hang out all the time, we never made friends on the outside before so I agree it is hard at times. We do have lots of acquaintance's

I guess that's the extent of our socializing. We try to keep busy. We golf in the summer and watch sports, I love Curling, and we've gone to some the whl games. I guess we used to be

accused of being self a satisfied as a couple. I imagine we are. That's what happens after 30yrs.

Hope4Others

worf

No.

Worf

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