Need Help! Any friends in Ohio Near Akron?

jakesnake82

I Was a Jehovah's witness for 10 years. It was difficult because I had no family in the truth. I was married to a pioneer sister when I was pretty young. She decided to cheat on me and leave the truth after a short time of marriage. That was two years ago. When I was disfellowshipped last week I hadn't missed a meeting in a year, went out in service 3 times a week and was even supposed to have a number 4 talk on the school the next day. I was blessed out in the ministry with above average success. I commited no gross sin but got into an argument with my commity meeting over the supposed wrong doing I had commited. I asked them to show me from the bible what I had done wrong. Of course they could not and were angry that I would even ask about that. So I was disfellowshipped and lost the only friends I had ever known. No one that knew about the circumstance agreed with it but out of fear no one came to my defense. I'm trying to rebuild my life but I know no one outside of the kingdom hall. Is there anyone with a similar experiance close to where I live in Ohio? Thanks Jake

JK666

Jake,

I have a copy of the "Pay Attention" book, the elder's secret book on how to govern. It has the instructions for them in a JC, and what they can and can't do. Either give us a little more info, or PM me and let me know privately. I live about 200 miles from you.

JK

JK666

And Welcome to JWD!

JK

jakesnake82

I would be very interested to see a book like that! The problem was I was dating the P.O.'s daughter and even tho we hadn't had sexual relations we had been alone together, kissed and I felt her up a few times which they insisted was loose conduct. Can anything be loose conduct? We had been dating for six months and wanted things out in the open. We came forward on our own without any other witnesses even knowing about it, but they said because this was going on for 6 months I must not be repentant. I think any other girl and I wouldn't have been df'ed. Please advise?

Octarine Prince

"Can anything be loose conduct?"

Yep.

AWAKE&WATCHING

W E L C O M E

Why didn't SHE get disfellowshipped?

I'm in Ohio - around the Columbus area.

dogisgod

I'm sorry. Welcome here.

penny2

Hi Jake, welcome to JWD.

Sorry you are in this situation. What you did is classified as loose conduct. Whether you get disfellowshipped or not often depends on who you know. The PO will be pretty annoyed at you because he can lose his position over it (if she is still living at home). He hasn't got his family under control so isn't a good example to the congregation. The other elders will be asking him why he let his daughter be alone with you.

Stick around - you will get lots of support here. Hope you find some fellow posters living near you.

penny

rache31

Having been raised as a JW, I think about how many people were in a similar situation as yours. I used to hear about things like this, even from siblings of mine that were df'd. You might as well have gotten some if you were getting that treatment. Hope you do now

AllTimeJeff

Sorry you went through that. According to the weird JW understanding "loose conduct" is as much about the attitude as the "sin". The fact that you felt up the PO's daughter didn't help you at all. You went up against a biased committee....

I admire the hell out of you for being strong and honest and not taking it. I wish you the best even though you are going through some painful times right now.

Need Help! Any friends in Ohio Near Akron?

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