by jakesnake82 23 Replies latest members meetups
Sounds to me like Daddy didn't like you for some reason......perhaps you "weren't good enough" for his little girl. Especially when he found out about the hanky panky.
So when he had the opportunity he threw the book at you. From his point of view, that solved THAT problem.
Hang around for a bit, you'll learn some "dirty little secrets" that the WTBTS has too.....you might find that he did you a favor.
Jake, do you plan on getting reinstated? If not, then what about your family? You mentioned they werent JW's, perhaps you could try to repair things with your family and also make some new friends that aren't/weren't JW's.
I personally dont know any EX JW's from the Akron Ohio are on this board, but that section of Ohio seems to have the most representation here.
Im from Dayton originally.
APPEAL it is not too late. daddy should not have been anywhere near your JC how could you ge an unbiased decision from those elders?
I agree with Wednesday . Fight the bastard elders like hell ! Make it difficult for them, say you want to write an appeal letter, and turn it in to them within 7 days of when they told you , you were being dfed. Then maintain your thoughts on your innocence , and tell them you will sue them for slander if they go forward with the disfellowshipping. There are no guarantees it will work, but it is worth a shot ! It worked for me ealier this year, and the society overturned the decision to DF me . So welcome to the board, and good luck ! Peace out, Mr. Flipper
Welcome Jakesnake.
You might want to try www.meetup.com. Enter your zip code then on the next screen in the search block just type in Jehovah. It should give you info on any ex-jw group that meets in your area.
I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet, but it's hard to want to go back when you feel you've been treated so unfairly. I honestly don't have any worldly friends and I have a small family so my options seemed limited. I've noticed most ppl that get df'd have one foot out the door already, so they do have some friends in the world. I wasn't in a stiuation like that. I had no idea that I'd get disfellowshipped.
Jake
i know it feels overwhelming now, and that is part of the "system' they use to make you feel so small. you are not without options. many people are DF not b/c they were not repentant, but b/c of a biased JC.
maybe you just want to leave, maybe not. again, appeal it in writing and at least another Jc will have to hear your case.
don't let them strip you of your self worth..
hang in and read some posts. look at the "Best of " sections.
I had no idea that I'd get disfellowshipped
That's what's so unfair. If you have family members who are elders, they can fill you in on the rules and how to go about things. You didn't have anyone to advise you so that has put you at a disadvantage.
As wednesday said, you can appeal. Then they get a completely new group of elders to hear your case. Unfortunately, the two groups of elders usually discuss things and then you lose.
I'm in Cleveland.
Welcome to the board
usually loose conduct will not get you DF but since you were with the PO daughter, it had some to do with it.
By Df you it might stop her from associating with you and maybe that's what the elders wanted.
Sexual misconduct, including; adultery, fornication, and
other forms of "por.ne'a.."
Uncleanness includes an intentional momentary touching
of sexual parts or caressing of breasts. ( I Thess. 4:7, 8;
1 Tim. 5:1,2)
"Pay Attention to Yourselves and to All the Flock"
92
Such minor uncleanness can be handled at the discre-
tion of an elder or two; it does not require a judicial
hearing.
There is a need for strong counsel, admonition, and
assistance to help the individual to maintain chaste
conduct in the future.
If not corrected, such conduct may escalate in gravity
and by frequent repetition become loose conduct.
Loose conduct is a shocking, flagrant disregard for Jeho-
vah's moral standards. (Gal. 5:19; w83 3/15 p. 31; w73
9/15 pp. 574-6)
It may include the willful practice of heavy petting or
the fondling of breasts.
The nature, circumstances, and actual extent of what
has occurred may indicate loose conduct, which would
require judicial action.
Such practices can easily lead to por.nei´a.
"Por.nei´a" involves immoral use of the genitals of at least
one human ( whether in a natural or a perverted way ), and
there must have been another party to the immorality‹a
human of either sex or a beast; willing participation incurs
guilt and requires judicial action. It is not a casual touch-
ing of the sex organs between persons but involves the
manipulation of the genitals. (w83 6/1 pp. 23-6; w83
3/15 pp. 30-1)
It includes oral and anal sex or mutual masturbation
between persons not married to each other, homosexu-
ality, lesbianism, fornication, adultery, incest, and bes-
tiality. (Lev. 20:10, 13, 15, 16; Rom. 1:24, 26, 27, 32;
1 Cor. 6:9, 10)
Also included are sexual abuse of children, including
practices involving a catamite (a boy kept for purposes
of sexual perversion). (Deut. 23:17, 18, Ref.: Bi., ftns.)
Victims of sexual abuse need to be treated with
extreme thoughtfulness and kindness. Elders should
always do what they reasonably can to protect
children from further abuse;
follow the Society's directives on such matters. (g85 1/22 p. 8)
