Greetings from a recovering mormon

by FormerMormon 114 Replies latest jw friends

  • FormerMormon
    FormerMormon

    What does hate have to do with logic? I personally know that when people develop positive emotional attachments to churches, political parties and the like that they become more than willing to justify, deny, or have complete cognitive dissonance of horrible things done within the organization they subscribe to. Democrats, Republicans,JWs, Morons.

    Primary (age 5) isn't youth??? Aren't you grasping at straws?? Can't one be scared by hell fire at 5 and by son's of perdition at 7???

    The Mormon doctrine of hell is contradictory. You assume it has to make sense, or be uniform and consistent.

    1. The Book of Mormon describes hell as a place of torment and burning to which all non-Christians will be condemned. Apparently you didn't read my reference in Mosiah ch 3 about hell, fire, damnation AND brimstone???

    2 D&C76 mentions 3 degrees of glory and outer darkness. The most righteous Temple Mormon get to live with God in the Celestial Kingdom. Lesser folks will get either the Terrestial or Telestial kingdom, depending on how naughty they were. Only the Sons of Perdition (apostates from Mormonism) will be condemned to "outer darkness" to spend eternity in torment with Satan. This can also be interpreted as anyone who says or thinks the words "I deny the truth" or "I deny God's power" or "I deny the Holy Ghost."

    The D&C 76 quote on perdition is as follows:

    31 Thus saith the Lord concerning all those who know my power, and have been made partakers thereof, and suffered themselves through the power of the devil to be overcome, and to deny the truth and defy my power

    32 They are they who are the sons of perdition, of whom I say that it had been better for them never to have been born;

    33 For they are vessels of wrath, doomed to suffer the wrath of God, with the devil and his angels in eternity;

    34 Concerning whom I have said there is ano forgiveness in this world nor in the world to come—

    35

    Having denied the Holy Spirit after having received it, and having denied the Only Begotten Son of the Father, having crucified him unto themselves and put him to an open shame.

    36 These are they who shall go away into the lake of fire and brimstone, with the devil and his angels—

    37 And the only ones on whom the second death shall have any power;

    38 Yea, verily, the only ones who shall not be redeemed in the due time of the Lord, after the sufferings of his wrath.

    39 For all the rest shall be brought forth by the resurrection of the dead, through the triumph and the glory of the Lamb, who was slain, who was in the bosom of the Father cbefore the worlds were made.

    The Mormons say that the Book of Mormon is a record of the fullness of the gospel, as given to the Lamanites and Nephites. The Mormons are unique in their belief on Temple Work, Baptisms for the dead, temple marriages/sealings, the 3 degrees of glory, preexistence and the Word of wisdom. If the Nephites had it all, why isn't any of that mentioned in the B of Mormon? --BECAUSE THESE IDEAS DIDN"T EVOLVE IN JOSEPHS HEAD UNTIL LATER.

    You quoted an article in wikipedia. When I was 5, Wikipedia didn't exist. My sunday school teacher couldn't have quoted from it. Further, good brother, you know that church members are admonished to teach ONLY from the standard works of the Bible, BOM,D&C and POGP. Church leadership knows that too much embarrassing stuff will come out if people start studying History of the Church, Journal of Discourses etc. I have quoted the scripture that scared the shit out of me as a YOUTH. The son of perdition quote you gave is from the King Follett discourse-- NOT WITHIN THE STANDARD WORKS.

    Further, to be honest about your use of wikipedia, you forgot the part in wiki that said:

    It "is frequently—though not universally —added that a son of perdition must have a "perfect knowledge" of Jesus and that mere faith or belief in him is not enough."

    Looking back, it really was my fault. As a 7 year old YOUTH, I should have had my scriptural lawyer with me. He could have broken all the "stay with the standard works" rules from on high and clarified things with the Follett quote. Once again, I assert that Thomas Paine was correct when he said that any religion that has things in it that would SHOCK the mind of a child CANNOT be a true system.

    Yes, these things did cause me serious damage. If you want to nit pick on calling it brain damage or psychological damage, then you are straining at a nat.

    Not doing hometeaching IS a big deal. I HAVE heard mission presidents, Bishops and Stake Presidents tell us that if we fail to do our duty, the blood and sins of those in our charge will be put on our head.

    You say I suffer from the inability to distinguish "

    metaphor from reality and enhanced emotional reasoning". I say it is the F**king leaders problem when they fail to identify when they are speaking doctrinally or metaphorically.

    You say I have lack of backbone. Maybe the recovering JW's here have a lack of backbone. Does it not take COURAGE to stand up against the fear and threats of the church and say "This is bullshit!!"? In the mission field, do we not ask people to open up their minds to the POSSIBILITY that the BOM is true?? Does this not involve opening up the range of possibilities for them? Does it not require a WILLINGNESS to follow through, no matter how painful? I now ask you to broaden your field as Gordon B Hinkley has said. Either the church is true as JS said it was, or it is a false, damnable heresy. Repeat in your mind: The church is either true or it is a false damnable heresy. Rinse your mind, repeat. Repeat until you are willing to follow through discovery, no matter what the results.

    I don't want to scare my kids with mormon crap either. Corrections have begun.

    Yes, I did the mission thing in the Bible belt. I was mostly confronted with pathetic appeals to biblical scripture, or vain rails against Joseph having more than one wife. I must admit guilty pleasure in the few encounters I had with the Witnesses. I DID NOT HEAR that joseph had begun translating a forgery known as the kinderhook plates. I DID NOT hear that most of the Chandler Papyrus from which the Book of Abraham was translated were rediscovered. I DID NOT know that the papyrus have been translated by modern Egyptologists and that the church agrees that the translation says NOTHING ABOUT ABRAHAM. I further did not hear about Joseph secretely proposing to other mens wives and marrying them while the husband was away.

    You seem confused by how I could hate so much in the church, and yet want some of it's ideas to be true. This is because you do not understand a fundamental tool of cults: Whiplashing subjects between extreme hope and extreme fear. It's a motivational tool that is actually counterproductive. Yes, I am glad to defuse the mormon fear colossus. Can't I still long for the beautiful fairy tales it told? How long have you been reading these similar stories on a recovering JW board?? Another tool cults use is isolating the dissenter. In the mission field, I was made to feel like I was the only one who couldn't work the required 90 hours/week. I was the only one feeling like I couldn't "be the machine". Recently, my stake president and "his scholarly friend" at BYU tried telling me I was the only one they had heard of that had issues with church history. I am glad to say, BULLSHIT, there are thousands and thousands of us.

    I agree with the mission statement at postmormon.org. They are not "Anti" mormon. They are "POST" mormon. We seek to take the good from the LDS church and leave behind the lies, manipulation and the BRAIN damage(I'm speaking metaphorically here). The good includes thoughts and teachings on humility, forgiveness, patience, fellowship and gratitude. I am thankful the church helped me live a life free of addictive substance, and to be free of the problems of sexual promiscuity.

    You have much to learn about the LDS church and cult recovery, grasshopper.

    You can come out of your scared corner now SusanHere. Your cognitive dissonance is very strong.

  • Qcmbr
    Qcmbr

    I woke up this morning wondering whether I should have said what I did in case FM is someone who is in need of help from counselling - I'm glad I waited.

    Everyone else - I can only say it so many times - you can listen to this guy rail all you like but he is off balance and is spouting diatribe rather than reasoned discussion. I'm finished with him. If you choose to believe that this is the LDS faith - so be it.

    Juntion Guy - I'll PM you in a bit with the answer to your question.

  • Qcmbr
    Qcmbr

    Undercover - why do you think that? I do see many similarities (in fact wasn't there a thread about this ages and ages ago?) If you mean why don't I fawn over someone who has left the LDS faith and posts like he's drunk a gallon of mountain dew and newly discovered the bold and red underline options in amongst yet another wife of Joseph Smith ..well sorry. I'm sure FM is great to talk to face to face and I hope he can find a way to reconcile his dilemma - some of us just do it a lot quieter and with less showboating.

    It may surprise you here that this site is interesting for reasons other than the stark JW surgery. My reasons are my own, they change from day to day, sometimes I just want to chat, sometimes I just want to lurk, sometimes I need to talk or hear people talk who have had religious experiences that are similar to mine but critically aren't mine. I've said before that I'd rapidly wig out on an ex-LDS site simply because I'd end up a full time apologist which I'm not in real life. Today I'm here to finish my words on this thread.

    :p

  • FormerMormon
    FormerMormon
    I'm curious as to how active, believing Mormons can spend time on an ex-JW board and not see the similarities between the JW religion that is constantly exposed as f'd up and the religion that they are devoted to and support wholeheartedly.

    Junction Guy,

    I agree wholeheartedly. Q and Susan couldn't survive at an exmo site (unless they weren't afraid of the truth). Apparently "Prove all things, hold fast that which is good" doesn't apply to things that challenge the faith.

    I want to see how ExJW's deal with loved ones and the cognitive dissonance so aptly demonstrated by Susan and Q. I want to show patterns of JW cult activity so my loved ones can recognize the same in the LDS faith.

    Best.

  • startingover
    startingover

    I find this thread very interesting, and at the end here, very irritating.

    Qcmbr, you said:

    I woke up this morning wondering whether I should have said what I did in case FM is someone who is in need of help from counselling - I'm glad I waited.

    Everyone else - I can only say it so many times - you can listen to this guy rail all you like but he is off balance and is spouting diatribe rather than reasoned discussion. I'm finished with him. If you choose to believe that this is the LDS faith - so be it.

    You have been on this board for some time and I have enjoyed your comments from a Mormon standpoint. I find it interesting now that you cannot see that you are acting out with FM just like the loyal JW's most all of us ex-JW's on this board have to deal with. I find your comments above offensive and uncalled for.

  • FormerMormon
    FormerMormon

    Qcmbr,

    I hope he can find a way to reconcile his dilemma -some of us just do it a lot quieter and with less showboating.

    IT being cognitive dissonance??? What did you need to reconcile in the church? That's quite the admission young skywalker.

    ...Prove all things brother.

  • FormerMormon
    FormerMormon

    Q...

    Let me see if I understand you correctly. I'm off balanced and unreasoned... and I threw you off? WOW, I can't wait to see what I can do when I'm balanced and reasonable. Imagine the superpowers.

  • DanTheMan
    DanTheMan

    Does it not take COURAGE to stand up against the fear and threats of the church and say "This is bullshit!!"

    Amen brother, amen...ex-jw's can relate to this 1,000,000%

  • SusanHere
    SusanHere

    I can come out of my "scared corner now"????? ROFL

    Thank you for so clearly confirming my earlier assessment of your character. I love it when I'm right.

    SusanHere

  • SusanHere
    SusanHere

    People, if someone with a loose screw were to say to me, "I know your name is Michael, you're really a man, and you just got out of jail for x, y, and z." What would you expect me to say?

    Fact is, Mr. Someone would be dead wrong. Of course I'm going to tell him so.

    Even though I'm obviously a woman who enjoys being one, and I don't have a man's name, nor have I a criminal record thus far in my life, there would undoubtedly be those who would choose to listen to Mr. Someone and try to get me to 'fess up to the supposed "facts" of his ravings.

    Well, sorry, folks. Truth is truth and Mr. Someone still has a loose screw. And I don't lie.

    Like I said before... believe FM's story or not. It's your choice.

    My part is done.

    SusanHere,

    enjoying life far too much to spend any more time on this thread.

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