No more fading. I've finally admitted my truth... (page 2)

Quandry

Very brave of you. Hope you feel a bit freer now, and hope it does not bring the dreaded shunning routine.......on the other hand, maybe your dad and mom will not buy into shunning and will get mad at those who suggest it.

restrangled

Alias, good for you! You are on your way to freedom, but could you please expound on the following quote:

I was not rejected, but there is more conversation to come after my dad speaks with the CO later this month. At the very least, I'm connected for "family business" and won't be shunned by my parents.

The statement "I'm connected for "family buiness" is the standard for shunning. That is used as the only excuse to contact relatives. Family business is usually death or fianancial doom.

Please don't be surprised if this happens and keep us updated.

r.

ex-nj-jw

I'm sure it took a lot for you have "the talk" with the parents. ((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

nj

AMNESIAN

Even though today there is little in this world about which I am more convinced than that the WT religion is no different from, and in some ways is much worse than, any other of the world's religions, nothing in my experience as a parent has ever come close to inflicting the kind of emotional trauma and devastation as when our child had this same conversation with us on Wednesday evening, August 14, 1991.

Your post re-conjures the moment and emotions as though it occurred yesterday.

Nothing in heaven nor earth could ever cause me to return to the JWs and still I doubt that little short of the literal loss of our beloved child could ever affect us in the same manner as the announcement "Mom and Dad, I've decided I don't want to be one of JWs anymore" uttered years ago, before my own fully-realized awakening and escape.

I sincerely wish you and your parents recovery and healing.

AMNESIAN

2/2001 (as in "out since...")

OnTheWayOut

Congratulations on your giant leap forward in your own journey. Please keep your support
system in place, as your parents might keep you on a rollercoaster.

You showed great concern for them.

alias

Maddie,
Thank you. And you may one day, even if it's just for you. If that day should ever come, you'll know what you need to do.

journey-on,
I know and agree. But that's just one more thing that strengthens my resolve and belief that my feet no longer fit in JW shoes. Thank you for your words.

Homerovah the Almighty,
I can only live one life. Mine. I have to find my way without depending on the decisions of others. Thank you.

Mr. Flipper,
I'm happy to know how things have worked out for you. We all have our circumstances, and this confirms that everyone reacts and deals with witness "stuff" differently. Thank you.

AWAKE&WATCHING,
Thank you. Me too. It's so telling what's in my Dad's heart *before* he has to confer with the CO. I wonder how my Dad will deal with it if he's told something he doesn't want to do. I appreciate your words.

Sassy,
I thought of your situation the whole time I was with my family. It took me 10 years to prepare for parental shunning. Thank you & hugs to you!

oompa,
I only have empathy and compassion in my heart for those who don't know any better and are stuck in the JW box. I was there for 25 years. Thank you.

changeling,
Thank you. I believe we have the power to create good lives if we so choose.

moshe,
Thank you. I'm looking from the outside of the fishbowl in. And it's easy to remember what it was like swimming on the inside.

Quandry,
I felt a great burden lift as soon as I spoke the words to my dad. And when he said "I'm in a hard place because I'm an elder AND your father", I suddenly realized that there within him, under all of the conditioning dub stuff, his heart still beats. Thank you.

restrangled,
The next day my dad gave me a copy of the KM article on "How to Treat DF'd Relatives, so I'm familiar with the rules of engagement. He really wants to believe that I was baptized too young and without the right understanding (I didn't capitalize on that, nor did I even use it as a reason). We live states apart and I rarely see them. I'm no threat to them spiritually. Since they host the CO & wife and have a close relationship with them, he wants to discuss the situation with him to see what he says.

Yes, I'm prepared for "business only", but I suspect that my parents don't see a reason for treating me like a pariah. If they do after the CO visit, then I guess they do. I can't say I wasn't prepared for that reality to come true. I'll post an update when I know more. Thank you.

ex-nj-jw,
Yes it did. But I'm glad I did. Thank you.

AMNESIAN,
Your experience "on the other side" of mine is touching. It is painful to see your own parents so torn between what's naturally embedded and what's programmed by repitious relgious dogma. I don't expect, but perhaps my dad will one day write similar words to yours. Thank you.

Thank you all for your support,

alias

Homerovah the Almighty

Your a brave Lass and a smart one too. ..... may you find happiness and peace !

alias

Nothing changes until something moves.

The soil is now loose.

alias

nvrgnbk

Feels good, right?

shopaholic

Alias, you're my inspiration. It takes so much to talk with your family about leaving the JW organization especially when they are strong believers. I'm currently building up the courage to do the same when I visit my next month. It gets to a point where fading isn't enough and you want to just be done with it all and truly get on with life. I applaud your courage.

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