You're not unreasonable. The guy sounds like a knob.
What's reasonable to expect on a first date?
You should consider yourself lucky that he was so forthcoming on the first meeting. Like eclipse, I totally endorse what BizzyBee said. This guy is really bad news.
Lose him now if you know what's good for you. There are nice guys out there.
If you did feel an emotional connection to such a narcissist there would be something wrong with you.
Drop it. If it takes this much energy before you even meet him then you need to move on. I think you know within 5 seconds whether someone is worth your time. Obviously your time isn't valuable to him. Too many red flags. One thing the "organization" will do is destroy your intuitive process. Listen to your inner voice and don't waste your time.