The thin line between too many drugs and insanity- my life this week: (page 3)

Mum

I'm sorry, mis, for what you're going through. I have a brother who has been addicted for 25+ years. I can't have any relationship with him; his wife, who was one of the dearest and sweetest people on earth, has also become addicted.

It sounds like there is nothing you can do at this point except take care of yourself and stop enabling. I recommend that you go to Al-Anon, which is for people with friends or family who are addicted to drugs or alcohol. They can help you stop enabling and find some peace.

Regards,

SandraC

sass_my_frass

Always remember that even the biggest addict at one time in their life had a choice, and they chose substances. They can pull you as far into their crap world as you'll let them. You are not responsible for them, their happiness, their success, their sanity, their income or welfare, anything. You are responsible for you. They are their own fault.

Twitch

MisA

Sorry to hear of the duress in your family. Do what you have to to be able to take care of yourself, first and foremost.

I've witnessed much insanity similar to what you've experienced back in the day and had no problem cutting those people out of my life. Much more difficult when it's your family. Then again, I really wouldn't know,......

You might say I know a few of the demonz that haunt your brother. Tough to say if some of them ever really go away. But as was said, choices are made and the results of those choices determine one's destiny. Or something profound like that :)

Twitch (recovering bad ass black sheep of his own family klass)

John Doe

Any updates?

atypical

Hi Mis,

I'm really sorry - I haven't been on the board much and I didn't know this was going on. It sounds like you have been more than supportive and helpful to your brother - I hope you can make sure to protect yourself now. I think your message was good; you are making it clear that you are not playing along with the craziness that the drugs are causing. I am not overly judgmental about all drugs; I have smoked marijuana a few times; but I do think meth is terrible for what it does to people and how it takes them over. On the positive side, people do manage to kick meth - hopefully your firmness will encourage your brother to get help.

Take care -

Atypical

misanthropic

I've been contemplating posting an update. A couple months ago after all of this and no contact with my brother and his wife because of this situation (and some other things) I got a call from his wife. He was arrested after crashing into a house and had to be restrained and taken to the hospital. She called me to see if anyone in my family had a history of blackouts (which I haven't heard of) because he didn't remember it happening this way.
Anyway I haven't heard from her since that call or spoken to him since we're no longer on speaking terms. But I was checking online to see if anything became of the situation and noticed there is a court date set and the charges are criminal which leads me to believe the drug tests they did came back as I suspected they would. I've been thinking about if I should show up at his court or not, I'm not sure he even told my parents or not and I feel torn, like someone should be there. Maybe that's just a dumb idea. I don't know, just something I've been contemplating.

DJK

I've been thinking about if I should show up at his court or not,

Make an offer to go as a show of support. If he says no, respect his wishes.

doofdaddy

I did not read previous comments.

You are his "parent" in this relationship. Healthy parents are consistant in their boundaries. Piss him off until he is willing to meet you at your level.

Sorry it sounds harsh but I have dealt with many young people who use chemicals. Trying to reason with them or show compassion just plays into their game, which ultimately creates more pain and loss for you. Remember, you are the stable one. Their reasoning is warped.

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