Zack- Mr. Flipper here. Yes it's true the"friends" will either think you are upset about something or spiritually weak, or both. Don't worry about what they think. Just tell your wife to tell them," He's down over a few things, we are taking care of it, thanks anyway." People need to mind their own business, believe me the more quietly you can fade and not say much to people if anything, it will go smoother for you. As for your wife and your relationship, just be honest with her, carefully. Don't assume her faithfulness to you is more important than her faithfulness to that cult. Be careful what you tell her in fading so she won't use it against you in a jc court of law. Tell her you love her, you have'nt changed, but you are just needing time to ponder things. If she loves you unconditionally, she'll understand. Good luck my friend, peace out, Mr. Flipper