First off - why do you believe that your life is important to them? Is that belief all important to you? Why?
In the JW world, you are only accepted by them if you are one of them. A df'd person is nothing - nobody, therefore not one of them. The very action of disfellowshipping which they use as an excuse for keeping the congregation clean, is nothing more than a control mechanism. It is not a loving discipline. It is not justified by any scripture. It is a death sentence for many families and individuals passed on with judgement by those in power. That power can be and has been abused by Elders not only in matters of reproof, disfellowshipping but most certainly in the reinstatement process.
Legally, you have the right to leave a spouse. Legally, you have the right to re-marry. Legally, you are not in any way an adulterer because you marry another person. The JW's have you believe that if you leave your wife, you should never again marry, date, or move forward with any other person until you can sneak around and find proof that your ex committed some dastardly sexual deed first. That's bunk! It is insulting for all involved to even think on that level. JW's do not have the moral high ground on any matters - their divorce rate is equal to that of any other religion. People are people.
You can continue on with your reinstatement requests but I've known people in the same position, who eventually simply walked away from the whole pile of nonsense after they realized that it's nothing more than a sham. If the society only really understood that they lose more members than they keep when they play these games. It has nothing to do with uncleanness - it's all about power and control. I know of elders who have dug for dirt on disfellowshipped in order to keep them from getting reinstated. It's their little power trip - a big fish in a small pond. If you are certain you want to belong to an organization that has judged you and your wife, and will continue to judge you forever, then keep writing and begging for renewal of your membership to the club. Eventually they will let you in. sammieswife.
