Well that whole survellience/stalking thing explains for a certainty now how a tire on my car got slashed at the hotel I was staying at on my first overnight stay with my new boyfriend (now husband, and it was POST DIVORCE so in my eyes, and the eyes of the law I was single. But who cares about caesers law, eh?)
He probably tailed me. Nevermind the fact that I had already told him I was going, told him that he could notify the elders when I got back. Never mind the fact that he tried to talk me into going to bars to pick someone up and offered me money to take a 'vacation' out of state if I "wanted to" while we were still married.
No dice. I didn't do anything until AFTER I had that divorce decree in my hands, and even then I made the decisions I did because of the fact that he told me in no uncertain terms that he would make my life a living hell if he didn't get to "remarry in a Kingdom Hall." All he cared about was appearances, and I had no doubt he would get violent if he didn't get his way. I didn't give a care at that point what the JW's thought of me anyway (except my family...) so I followed my gut instincts and the advice of a friend who said..."Safety first."
meaning, do whatever it takes to get the lunatic out of your life.
Course I know now why he was in such a hurry. He already had a girlfriend, and was engaged within 8 weeks of the divorce. The fact that raised some eyebrows at the KH didn't stop him from marrying her there.
Oh, and did I mention that he liked to stay out all night "at the bar" for years previously and rarely came home smelling like smoke?
Did I mention that the woman he married was a 'friend' of mine whom I had known since I was 12, and that she had been after him the entire time we were married? I did, in fact predict to two people in advance that she would be his second wife. They thought I was being paranoid.
She got what she wanted...and now she has the same blank, living death look in her eyes that I did when I was married to the creep. I would have warned her...but who would have listened to the disfellowshipped "adulterous" wife?
These people make me ill.
He's still an 'upstanding' brother. I'm still shunned. But anyone here who knows what I lived with in that marriage will most likely understand why I played things out exactly as I did.
And it worked. "Safety first" worked.
ps hope this post makes sense. Hard things to remember, makes me ramble.