Is is easier to fade if you are the husband or the wife?

by wings 24 Replies latest jw friends

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  wings

  I hope this brings up the "arrangement of submission" question to you. As the wife of an unbeliveing husband, you submit to everything except the things that go against your service to Jehovah. As the husband of an unbeliving wife, you are kind and considerate and love her like yourself. No submitting involved.

  So. When you push the inside-out button...the unbelieveing wife of a believeing husband needs to pretend to submit to everything, except the things that go against her own conscience. While the unbelieveing husband of a believeing wife can just bide his time as long as he allows her to attend meetings and serve Jehovah.

  I am interested in your comments.
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  OnTheWayOut

  If both were very active, I would say the sudden change or gradual change would be
  easier for a husband to pull off. He's the spiritual head of the family. He can do what
  he wants, spiritually, and not explain it, or he can say he doesn't want to get strengthened
  by more study or whatever. He can say he has doubts and will deal with them.

  A wife is subordinate in the JW's faith. He must "save" her from the evil devil. He must
  do all that is humanly possible for her to get over her doubts. He might insist on
  studying more together, sending the elders over to talk with them both, making her go
  to JW meetings.

  She might have to feign illness to get out of stuff. She might have to leave on pretend
  field service to get out of real field service. He might do those things, but also might
  choose not to lie about them.
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  twinflame2

  If my husband had quit instead of me, it would have been much easier. When the wife is weak and fades away, it makes him look bad. That adds a whole new spin on it IMO.
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  moshe

  A brother whose wife falls away gets little sympathy at the KH, on the other hand a wife with an inactive/fading husband can get lots of sympathy and support.
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  Sassy

  Fading is never easy under any circumstances..

  if one spouse choses to fade while the other is active.. yes.. it would be harder.. I don't think it matters which you are.. the husband or the wife
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  wings

  twinflame2, what's an IMO? Thanks for the comment.
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  wings

  moshe, good comment...because the weight of responsibility falls on the husband.
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  theinfamousone

  never easy.... but i think the wife would have a harder time if the husband is active...

  the infamous one
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  OnTheWayOut

  what's an IMO?

  I don't know all the abbreviations but

  IMO = "in my opinion"
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  jaguarbass

  If both mates are not in the troof . Call uneven yoke and throw the book out the window!