Do you think I should do this or not?

reneeisorym

At my wedding -- June 30th-- I will have a few x-jws and even one maybe two real JWs there.

The wedding is in a church .. . and I was thinking of having "Marriage is God's arrangement" played just for kicks with even a soloist there to sing it. I would just love to see the reaction of the JWs and the x-jws laugh.

A lot of times I get stuck between having fond memories of my days where my family is still around. I feel like that was a part of who I was. And other times I embrase change and hate what they did to me. Mixed feelings there.

So what do you think?

brunnhilde

Hmmm, I think for your special day the last thing you would want is to have your memories tainted by that crap. But that's just me! *grin*

crazyblondeb

Will the real JW's come to a church??

carla

This is your day, not a day for jw's to think, 'see, she still agrees' or some such silly nonsense. You are starting a new life with your husband, why muck it up with jw crap? just my 2cents.

reneeisorym

His words were, "i have always felt close to you as well. thats why i feel wrong not attending the wedding or something that important, and i wouldn't mind coming and having lunch or dinner one day and i thank you for the invitation."

I was very excited about this. I'm trying not to push it though. I figure we'll eat lunch together sometime when he's comfortable. He's about 22 and my younger cousin. A year ago when I was still going to the meetings, this cousin of mine was still going too. Also, he has a brother that never did get baptised. I'm hoping his brother might come too. The brother took to drinking and girls instead but as far as I know, he still thinks he should be going to the meetings.

Crumpet

Rene - real JWs arent allowed to go in a church for a ceremony though I thought??? Or are they just doing it underground as it were?

You know I am always up for doing things the funny way - but I would say maybe not at the actual ceremony. Gags have their place (in the bedroom) and I don't think weddings or funerals are the right place for either. Also it should be as spiritual as possible - however after the ceremony - if you think it will get a laugh from a few in the no - why not have a few bars played at the reception when any jokey songs go (at least at UK weddings!)

anewme

Reneé I think you should do whatever you want to. I have just reviewed song 117 Marriage--God's Arrangement and think it is a truly beautiful tribute to marriage!
"Marriage is Gods arrangement.
By him it was designed.
It forms a bond of union,
Brings blessings to mankind."

"Love her as your own body.
This God requires of them
She who respects her husband
Is like a precious gem."

It does mention "headship" and serving "Jehovah" together, but you could substitute those with "Christlike Love" and "God" or "the Lord".

I think it will be fine Reneé.

Anewme

KW13

Special day, don't bother. Do some other gag elsewhere like use Kingdom Melodies for toilet paper or somethin'

reneeisorym

Its not so much a gag as it is that the song means something to me. And it is a song that I always thought would be played at my wedding. That said -- I still don't know how I feel about it. Its like I hate what they did to me ... but being a JW was still a big part of my past.

KW13

I see what ya mean, in that case your choice - i wouldn't personally

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