Even when I was a witness I would have taken other people's feelings and beliefs into consideration and thought it wrong to stick a J-dub up there to preach and count time
Me too, Sandy. I once was asked to give a wedding talk for my ex-wife's niece. Even though I was an active JW, I tried very hard to make it a general talk. While based on scriptures, I never once mentioned the name "Jehovah." I even pulled back quite a bit on the 'woman being in subjection to the man' routine.
Those funeral infomercials used to make me cringe too. I felt that--especially if the individual was not an active JW, but also if a good majority of the family weren't JWs--strong consideration should be given to those grieving people.
So sorry about your grandma, sweetheart.
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