I asked her why a loving God would hate something innocent as dressing up as Cinderella and giving candy to those you love? My oldest agreed and said, "Do you know how the Bible says God is going to kill people? If God is loving why would he kill people?" That opened the door to some ground-breaking dialogue. We are coming along. I am just very protective of them and am really uncomfortable with them having to face angry householders at their young age. If they want to go when they are in their tweens, that is fine, but I'm just not okay with it right now at this developmental stage.
Wow you sound like a fantastic mum. Keep it up! You'll do OK and I'm sure you'll work through things to the point where you know what to do. Hugs.
Sirona