I finally made contact with an exjw sister that I knew while growing up. She was one of the first people that I remember that da'd or was df'd. Let me explain...
When I was young(pre-teen to late teens), my family met at her parents house for book study. Her family was always considered one of the more "spiritual" families in the hall, if not the entire surrounding area. I made mention in a fairly recent post of mine that one of her brothers studied with me and was also known in the hall as "The Walking Aid Book." They were one of the nicest families you could ever have known.
Anyways, one day out of the blue I found out that this sister(I'll use her first initial, "S") had left the organization. At the time she was married but still lived in the San Diego area. I don't remember exactly if she was df'd or if she da'd herself. I don't recall her being df'd, so I assume she da'd. The rumor was that she committed "apostacy." When I asked her brother why she left, even he mumbled something about "apostacy" and didn't really want to talk about it. My mother also said something about apostacy in passing one day regarding S. I was young. Why shouldn't I believe both my mother and this ex-sister's brother and the rest of the congregation?
So I made contact. I was browsing through Randy's list of exjw's and came across her (maiden)name. I tried both email addresses in the past, but neither worked. Since she used the same alias for both addresses, I again tried searching that alias and found her posting on a board for animals. I noticed that her last posts were from just a couple of months ago so I decided to take a shot and sign up on the board to send her a member-to-member email. It worked. She emailed me back.
Now this is where I feel like I've been duped. For years I believed that she turned apostate and simply left her husband for another guy. I knew her ex husband quite well for many years and even reunited again with him after several years in Denver. It turned out that he was in the same kingdom hall as me, but in the other congregation. Very small world. As it turns out, he slept with his secretary. That is why she left. Not for apostacy, not for another guy, but for infidelity on the part of her ex husband. I can't believe this rumor lasted as long as it did. Insane.
I'm waiting for her to call me so we can catch up. I don't know if she ever found her way to this board in the past, but I will be sure to tell her to drop on in. I hope everyone welcomes her with open arms. As far as I know, her family has completely disowned her too. She still lives in the San Diego area so maybe we could get her to show up for a meetup one day.
I hope to see you here S. It's been a long time.
Josh