I am dating someone who recently left the JW religion. I am not a JW, nor do I align myself with any specific religious organization.
Intellectually, it was very difficult for me to accept that he could be absorbed into what I believe is one of the strongest cults of our society, but in time I realized just how easy it was to be absolved in something that you are forced into out of fear.
He's at a point right now where he is reading/researching various literature and discussing his experiences openly *such as boards as these* and I encourage such discussions. He does not see himself ever returning to the religion and is even willing to face that he may be shunned from his own family as a result.
Here is where I am "stuck". I am very close to my family and I know that my parents and family will love him once they meet him and know him. However, he cannot even begin to guarantee (and I realize this is the case in most relationships) that his parent's will feel the same toward me because 1) He is divorced and 2) I am not JW. I do not know if I can be with someone whose family would merely "tolerate" my presence. Do I expect them to love and adore me? of course, but I know that's not always the case with any relationship. I just don't know what kind of future we can have where half of a family support system exists?
Another "sticking" point. He has a 5 year old daughter who is being raised JW. How do I not get excited about Halloween, Christmas, celebrate her b-day, etc. Introducing a child to another person is difficult enough let alone the fine line I will have to walk between her mother's beliefs and her father's (and mine) desire to open her mind.
A lot to absorb, I realized as I type this out...but this is what I'm facing. I love this man so much and with all my heart.....but is love truly enough to conquer these issues?
Thanks for any advice/input in advance