Lenny,
You said "hesitate to take action for fear of the effect on their relationship with loved ones"
We have found out what true friends are. When we were at the height of our ‘spirituality’ we lost some friends because of their ‘improper conduct’ – Yeah we were up tight jackholes and turned our backs because they were 'bad'. So a few months back one of them called us to see if the rumors were true they heard, Apostate. Yep they were, are, is. These are now the best friends we have ever had, sick that we found them when we got out and could not have this closeness when we were all in. So speaking from experience friends and support will be found and be truer than any of those who will always put a faceless organization above the human aspect. Is someone's life 'happier' when they need to conform to have acceptance.