I posted last week about wanting ideas to bring up for a visit from my old teacher and her Elder husband. The visit went awesome, they only managed to stay for 3 1/2 hours then made up a lame excuse and bolted out of here as fast as they could. I am very grateful for the responses I recieved, although we never made it to those issues, I didn't get a chance. I was never baptised, but when I was studying, my husband at the time was cheating on me and I was unable to prove it although I brought them ALOT of proof. I asked them, had I been baptised, what would have happened to me if I decided to take the same path as I did by leaving the Org. They tried to ping-pong the issue by saying I wasn't so no action could be taken. Being aware of that fact, I again redirected them to the question at hand, but what if I had been baptised. The Elder then proceeded to empathise with my situation back then, and beings I was under great stress, if I had gone out drinking, got drunk, had a one-night stand, but was repentant and came forward right away, nothing but a good talking to would have happened and I would have then been scriptually free from the marriage as I would have commited adultery. I asked what would have happened had I did what I did, which was meeting my fiance and respecting myself and him as well by waiting for "relations" until I felt ready, which wasn't for about 6 months after we met, but I don't feel repentant over it, and I continue on with the relationship? He said, well, then I would have been disfellowshipped.
So, they were telling me that a one night stand is more forgiveable in the eyes of Jehovah than a long term respectable relationship resulting in marriage.
Am I way off here or is this really stupid thinking on their part?
I did manage to get alot of closeure from this meeting and I don't think they will ever return. I played nice and told them we would love to have them over to our house some night to grill out some steaks and hang out, but they said since I am not in the Org., that was out of the question, I actually felt kinda sorry for them.