I see. From this testimonial you have concluded that all churches are unloving. My experience was quite different. I understand your anger, but I fail to see your logic.
My father was sexually assaulted by his choir director when he was a school child. He'll have nothing to do with God and he refuses to attend church. I don't blame him for his reaction, nor would I force that choice on him. Dad has a fine sense for hypocricy, won't tolerate it. I like to think I've inherited that trait from him.
As a teen mom and battered wife, I called a Christian counselling line for support. They helped me get the courage to leave an abusive husband and to rebuild my life. I attended that same church for twenty years. I will be forever grateful for their kindness, and I will not deny their help. I won't tolerate abuse any more, either, though. Am I the dupe for accepting the love and help from a church?