So, my marriage has been in trouble for some time. My husband and I have totally different goals, and ideas of "partnership". The last few months have been even more difficult than usual, he has been out of work, and not picking up any extra load around the house. I skip lunch most days so I can come home early, as he is in a 9 hour a week training program that meets in the evening. When I get home, the house isn't clean, there's no dinner made, and he is usually on the computer. I have asked more times than I can count for him to please help around the house, and he always has some excuse why he didn't or can't. He's in good health, doesn't have a part time job that limits his schedule, but chooses not to help as I ask. In addition, he has a "hobby" that costs us quite a bit of money. He wants it to be his career, but has never made any money at it. For purposes of anonymity, I can't go into details of that it is, but suffice it to say, it's a crowded industry that requires a hell of a lot of skill and good luck, and I don't really see it happening. He has charged lots of money on our credit cards, and even opened a new credit account. Since he's not working, he has been late on at least one payment that I know of, which could begin to negatively affect MY credit.
I decided to look on the computer last night, to see what sites he has been visiting. Lo and behold, I found out that he has a membership on an adult friend finder site, and has sent messages to various women offering to meet with them. I don't know if he has actually done so, but like I said, he has all day to do whatever he wants and I would never know. The only reason I haven't left already is because we have a young son, and I know it will be devestating for him if our family breaks up.
I really think this is the last straw for me. I will have to work with my son to help him get over the separation, but I simply don't want to be with this man anymore.
Any advice? Words of wisdom?
Happyout - really, really not happy right now