Sorry, I just need to vent. My SS will be 18 very shortly. The state that they live in actually allows child support to continue until the age of 21(WTF?) and can continue to garnish wages as long as the "child" goes to school and signs a release form to let the parents access his school records. SO basically, as penalty for being divorced, the state and the ex can continue to butt into a relationship that should now be adult to adult and none of anyone's business. And mind you that they do not order visitation to continue, only that the parent who was non custodial parent has to keep paying. They can also order the parent that had previously had custody to pay a portion of the support if they choose. The support goes directly to the child.
So last month, the ex gets mad at my husband for refusing to provide her with sensitive personal financial information for applying for grants. Hubby told them that he would contribute cash to help with expenses, but not give her any personal financial information, and that free money isn't needed when tuition for 2 years is under $5000 including extras. ( child is a pioneer who plans to take a useless part time certificate program at community college for very little money per credit) Ex gets mad and files all kinds of ridiculous documents for hubby to have to pay continued support at double what it is now, plus college expenses, life insurance, etc and demands for copies of 3 years worth of check book registers, deposit slips, medical bills and any and all income and expenses, copies of regestrations to vehicles, credit card statements, etc... well, you get the picture. Our attorney tells us we should just hand it over. We say no way. Fight it. WE are still waiting to hear if she is willing to do that or not.
The most difficult thing is that she is costing as much as the childs first years tuition in attorneys fees. And it is such a waste. She is pure and simple after money. The mother is a greedy bi-polar, OCD, suicidal, borderline personality disordered maniac and needs to be stopped. I just wish we could have afforded a real kick a** attorney that would mop the floor with her. Instead we are stuck with someone who appears to be at this point milk toast because they had a retainer we could actually marginally afford to pay.
Well, thanks for letting me spout, and it's ok if no one responds. I am just on my 3rd nearly sleepless night, and missed my window to take a pill that would solve that problem for the night.