Do you follow you own advice?

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  • Super_Becka
    Just some advice. I did it and if you sort of feel that way you should.

    I definitely hear ya, and knowing what I do now, that would definitely be the wise thing to do. Like I said, that's what I'd tell my friend if she was in that situation, but I also said:

    But of course, it's not a friend in that situation, it's me, and it's significantly hard for me to do that. I know that my life would me much easier if I just followed that advice, but that doesn't make it any easier for me to step up and do that.

    Even coming from someone else, it's not easy. It's not easy to follow my own advice on this topic, and it's not easy to follow someone else's, either.

    Damn love, getting in the way of rational thought again.

    -Becka :)

  • DelTheFunkyHomosapien

    Fast forward 5, 10, 15 yrs. Do you want to be in this same exact situtation???? The longer you leave the worse (not better) it will get. Don't wait until house, kids etc

  • Frog

    yeap, always x

  • Super_Becka
    Fast forward 5, 10, 15 yrs. Do you want to be in this same exact situtation???? The longer you leave the worse (not better) it will get. Don't wait until house, kids etc

    Again, hearing you loud and clear on this subject, but I'm not quite ready to call it quits just yet, I'm still testing the waters. It's only been 9 months, I don't know everything about him just yet, I want to learn more and see what he thinks and feels. Then, instead of bailing right now and wondering if I made the right decision, I'll know that I'm doing what I should be, whether I stay or leave. If I was already years into this relationship and it wasn't going anywhere, then I'd get out, but it hasn't been that long, I'm not finished exploring it yet.

    But I certainly won't be getting myself into anything I don't want to. I know better than that. This board has taught me well and continues to teach me well.

    And besides, if I bailed on the relationship now and went back to dating regular, non-JW guys, I wouldn't have a reason to be on this board anymore. Then what would I do for a social life??

    -Becka :)

  • codeblue

    As for me, I only give advice when asked. And it is good advice.

    Yes, I have problems dealing with myself. Like another poster said: insecurities!

  • LDH

    I wouldn't have the mental energy to live one way and dish out advice contrary.

    The only thing I tell my friends is don't ask for advice they don't really want. If they are looking for someone to silently stand by or mollycoddle I'm not the one.

    My best girlfriend has been under the spell of a dear friend she was recently reacquainted with. Of course he is married and 'miserable.' Now knowing me, what do you think I would tell her.

    If I were single again I would NEVER date a married man. So that means if I can dish it out I better be able to take it.


    Up with a sick teenager Class

  • Carmel

    You mean how to use a five iron? Hell no! I can't afford the time!


  • collegegirl21

    I try to... but its easier said than done.

  • Golf

    Carmel, you need to get in the 'swing' of things. (Pun intended)


  • snarf

    If someone asks for my input I always say"this is what I did, or would do", "this is what society says you should do". There are too many "if's" and "but's". People's lives and morals are too different to base advice on one answer.

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