My boyfriend is a stubborn yet inactive and unbaptized JW, and he's never hesitated to introduce me to his JW family, he was actually really eager for me to meet them (probably because he's 28 years old and I'm the first girlfriend he's ever had). They're very nice people, very warm and welcoming, and not once did they treat me like an outsider because I'm not a JW. His sister lives in Hawaii and I haven't had a chance to meet her yet, but she's quite excited about me and she's been begging my boyfriend to take me to Hawaii to meet her and her husband (husband #2 for her, and he's a non-JW), which he promised to do this summer. My boyfriend knows that I'll never convert and become a JW, but he doesn't have a problem with that, we're just going to have to compromise a lot.
What really got me was the notion of going to the KH with him. I offered to go if he ever wanted to (note: I didn't suggest that we go together, I just mentioned that I would go with him if he ever wanted to, but he rarely goes, once a year maybe), and he's OK with the idea, but he made it clear that if we ever go together, then I can't let anyone know that we're dating and that I'm staying with him (it's a long-distance thing, so if I was there to go with him, I'd have to be staying with him, too), and we couldn't behave like a couple. Why not?? Because the people there wouldn't approve of that. Ooo, can we say "double-life"??
He loves me, I have no doubt of that, and he wasn't afraid at all of bringing me to meet his family, but he seems really concerned about what his congregation would think of our relationship, despite the fact that he can count on one hand how many times he's been there in the past few years and isn't active at all. His family isn't a concern, they're all inactive and nominal like he is, but the opinions of active JWs and the elders seems to be really important to him.
Ugh, I'll never understand JWs, I just won't. Makes me incredible glad that I've never been one and will never be one.
-Becka (of the "JWs are too complicated" class) :)