I have been slowly preparing myself for when my JW mother dies. She has diabetes, and she's not taking care of it. She continues to eat and drink heavily sugared foods. It almost seems like she's doing a slow suicide.
Anyway, when my mother dies, I want to hold a separate gathering from the JWs. My mother wants a JW funeral, so she's going to get it. However, I never want to attend a KH ever again, and all of her immediate family are not JWs. Therefore, I want to hold a separate gathering for myself and the non-JWs.
What I'm curious about is who takes on the responsibility of writing the obituary? Do the JWs take it upon themselves to write an obituary advertising a KH funeral when there are no other JWs in the family?
I do not want the JWs to take over the whole thing. They can have their shitty funeral, but I want to give an alternative for those who aren't JWs. That's why I want to write the obituary.