Sir82, that story is almost too hard to believe, if it wasn't jw involved I would probably be skeptical. Sadly I have heard similar stories.insane.
Skyman, you could do a birthday party for your kids just have the parents bring the kids to a bowling alley, chuck e cheese (if you can handle that place) or better yet, the evil Y, the YMCA does a nice job with kids parties. They can swim, climb rock wall, etc.. If you don't have it at your house maybe nobody would have to know. If it was at the Y, I'm sure you wouldn't run into too many dubs would you? The age in which kids do the whole party thing goes by so quickly! Soon comes the preteen age and those kinds of parties are done with. Then it moves onto smaller sleepover, movie nights usually. High school? forget it, they don't want mom & dad planning anything for them usually. They do their own thing and let their friends plan suprises. Basically if you want your kids to experience birthday parties with classmates, you have k-5 to that. Not even to grade 5 sometimes. The age in which boys and girls are there together? k-1 or 2, then they become strictly gender based.