The "Infidelity" test

by JH 41 Replies latest jw friends

misspeaches

Crap i got 75 opps heheheh
You cheeky newly married thing.
Es

Hehehe im a shocker when it comes to sex....i have never cheated, but hubby knows im very open with it
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Es

Hehehe im a shocker when it comes to sex....i have never cheated, but hubby knows im very open about it
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chrissy

Results of "The Test"
Do you have a cheating heart?
Your score = 95

When the cat is away the mice will play - and, in your case, the cat could even be in the next room. While you may never have actually two-timed anyone, you certainly show the attitudes and tendencies of a cheat. You don't think relationships should be, or even can be, monogamous. For you, variety is the spice of life. While the word "cheat" may have negative connotations, perhaps you are simply open-minded and more liberal than most. (Different strokes for different folks.) In this case, your attitude might not be a problem…if you can find a partner who shares your idea of commitment. Even couples that think they can handle infidelity, however, are often surprised by the strange mix of emotions that it creates. Jealousy and bitterness can destroy the most well-intentioned, open-minded couple, so weigh the pros and cons before exploring new horizons.

>:)
Gretchen956

oooops, I guess I'm pretty boring!
Results of "The Test"
Do you have a cheating heart?
Your score = 0

What does your score mean?
Loyalty is numero uno for you in love, and you can't imagine settling for anything less. You consider two-timing the lowest of the low, and would probably boot a lover out the moment you caught them in the smallest act of what you consider infidelity - which may or may not fit into other people's definition. It might be a good idea to give some thought to what acts you consider cheating. Some, for example, would feel betrayed if their partner checked out porn, while others wouldn't even blink an eye (or want to join in). How about flirting, hugging, or going to the strippers? If you draw the line at even the most innocent of acts, it's possible that you have a jealousy issue. If you simply demand complete and utter loyalty from a partner, this may work out just fine - as long as you find someone who has the same high standards and keep the doors of communication open.
Sparkplug

Results of "The Test"
Do you have a cheating heart?
Your score = 10

What does your score mean?
Loyalty is numero uno for you in love, and you can't imagine settling for anything less. You consider two-timing the lowest of the low, and would probably boot a lover out the moment you caught them in the smallest act of what you consider infidelity - which may or may not fit into other people's definition. It might be a good idea to give some thought to what acts you consider cheating. Some, for example, would feel betrayed if their partner checked out porn, while others wouldn't even blink an eye (or want to join in). How about flirting, hugging, or going to the strippers? If you draw the line at even the most innocent of acts, it's possible that you have a jealousy issue. If you simply demand complete and utter loyalty from a partner, this may work out just fine - as long as you find someone who has the same high standards and keep the doors of communication open.

Now I have an issue with this...or did till I saw that FHN and others got the same jealous comment. I think they tried to diffuse the grand insult by adding
If you simply demand complete and utter loyalty from a partner, this may work out just fine - as long as you find someone who has the same high standards and keep the doors of communication open.
Personally I would have to say for me It causes so much on the relationship forefront. People mistake it as jealousy, when actually it is a hurt heart. It is hard for me to understand how I can care so much for a partner and would go through painstaking efforts to not hurt them. Included in this is loyalty down to the minute detail. It is given to me the opinion at various times in my life that I am jealous. Like this and expectations of loyalty are a bad thing.
THIS PISSES ME OFF.
What kind of a friggin world do we live in when we are put down for anything that even remotely resembles any kind of territorialism? Not that I want to own someone....not at all.
This test poses the example:
Some, for example, would feel betrayed if their partner checked out porn, while others wouldn't even blink an eye (or want to join in).
I think that porn is fine. It did kill a marriage or two, but over the years I have come to realize it is just a visual. Men like visuals. does it make me jealous? A bit, because I am a wonam and I like tangible feelings and emotions. The jealousy comes in when I "of course wish I looked like this person being ogled..(spelling) and wish I had a 21 year old body and that my man drooled and dropped the minute he saw me look like that. Why is that a bad thing. Do I allow pornto be part of my choices in relationships...sure. I have grown
How about flirting, hugging, or going to the strippers?
flirting- well that is unavoidable. I think it is a loyalty thing. You cant control who flirts with your partner no more than I can control who flirts with me. But I get a bit irked when the flirting is done in my face. My thoughts are that it is disrespectful. Really how swell am I to feel when I want 'after all' to be the one flirted with by my partner?
Think on it.
The one person who pulls for the other and deals with the good, bad, stupid, and ugly has to be publicly humiliated by dealing with the flirting. I am just a realist. Think of my thoughts this way...I know I used flirting to obtain the mate that I may be with. Human nature. Flirting makes desires come to surface. It all starts as flirting. so why in the hell do I ever have to deal with this right in front of my face. It is like someone recieving all the good from me and yet giving the good stuff...flirting hugging to someone who happens to have "whatever it is" that is being flirted at.
And furthermore if you are the type of woman who may disrespect me and flirt with my partner right in front of me, it is a trait that I already find unappealing in you. Go get your own. There are tons of people in the world. Dont get me wrong. A compliment in the right place can be given to whoever I am with and It is a most flattering thing to know people think well of who you are with.
strippers
I realize that some people find this ok, I am torn on this. I don't like my mate, if deeply involved with going. It really sucks. After all I want to be the one stripping for him. Common sense. If I suck at it, then go pull your damn wallet out and do all that needs to be done to help me have a stripper body and send me to class. I am not opposed to that. Damn would that not be the coolest gift. A gym membership, maybe a private trainer and a few strip classes. I WOULD LOVE THAT! Who wouldn't? Lord knows with 3 kids and my workload that I cannot afford it. So really. I am not that bugged by it, but in the fairy tale world, someone loves me enough to help me get the tools needed to empower myself. Not that I do not have confidence, but why wouldn't I like to be treated like a pampered princess and get the chance to attain a kick ass body?
same high standards
Confession, I have been accused of that. No personal offense to whoever I may be with...but If I am tough on you, can you imagine how tough I am on myself? Take it as flattery, and I will work on easing up on levels of expectation. I personally do not see how my lowering my standards so that the one I am with can fit the bill makes that equation any more comforting. (OK, now everything is ok, because I lowered my standards) If I think on that too hard, then I am disappointed in myself. For I have strived to improve myself, but I don't expect the major player in my life to do the same? That does not make sence to me
What does it mean to lower standards really? Settle for less....give in...lower my expectations? Give up? that all sounds a bit lousy and digressive to me.
Mind you I do know people have different capabilities and that my best may be what someone else can do standing on their head. So I do make room for peoples various levels of abilities. Sadly in a way though, I do tend to expect the best of myself and of the ones I love.
WOW...I got that out did I not? (forgive my typos...I am on a roll)
Sparkplug

Ok, I had to add a bit more while I am being so transparent.
On the thought of strippers...I always think to self, How would my mate like it if I went and got sexually aroused and fantasized over some male in a thong?
Really, I know some men may not mind at all...but I personally don't really want that kind of a man. I want someone to mind. Come on...Is it bad to have someone who wants to be admired by me moresoe than some stud muffin on a stage. Truly I am not looking for obsessive or overly jealous, just a tad bit deeper level of feeling.
Lawd knows, as stated with myself, I cant afford strip classes nor what goes into presenting such a great picture of my own body. So knowing not all men are blessed with such great bodies, don't you think it shows a deeper respect to be loyal and show some thankfulness by this respect by not going to a strip club myself? I am thankful all the time for the deeper things that one does for me and my household, and I guess I can't fathom someone not being a bit ego struck by me drooling over someone else. Who knows, maybe I am a bit infuriating. I guess I am trying to say this is one way I show my thankfulness...by loyalty.
I do think that if you are single and non committed, (LMAO at the word committed) then all partying and flirting is great...with other singles.
Does the Gemini in me show by these two different opinions?
*walks away laughing at self*
Sparkplug

One more thing...I went back to the site and took the jealousy test.. for shits and grins:
Results of "The Test"
How jealous are you?

Your score = 35

What does your score mean?
When it comes to jealousy, you're as cool as a cucumber. A coworker could beat you for a promotion and you'd probably be genuinely happy for them; your partner could share a cozy corner with an attractive stranger and you'd barely blink an eye. Where does this untouchable attitude come from? Well, you are most likely very confident - both in your own personal worth and your partner's loyalty to you. You may occasionally feel a twinge of envy (who doesn't), but overall you realize that the green-eyed monster is one creature you just don't want to mess with. Your relationships surely benefit from this attitude.
I personally expected something horrid to be written for I was very honest. I wrote yes to questions, (all of them) that would most definitely make me appear jealous. (Or at least in my own opinion) and despite the awkward answers, It still said this.
Mind you this was not posted to justify, actually I am stumped. Maybe it is more of loyalty than it is jealousy? Not sure, but I found it interesting. After all these are silly internet tests for fun right?
lonelysheep

70
While you may have never strayed from a relationship, you can easily imagine how these things happen. You tend to be realistic rather than idealistic when it comes to love, and don't discount the possibility that you or your partner could be lured away by temptation. We are, after all, sexual creatures, and are sometimes ruled by organs other than our hearts. On the other hand, long-term, committed relationships are not always smooth going and we may be tempted to turn to others, not for the satisfaction of physical needs, but to achieve emotional intimacy. Over all, you hope for the best and truly want to believe in eternal love - but are keeping your eyes wide open, just in case.
AuldSoul

Results of "The Test"
Do you have a cheating heart?
Your score = 10

What does your score mean?
Loyalty is numero uno for you in love, and you can't imagine settling for anything less. You consider two-timing the lowest of the low, and would probably boot a lover out the moment you caught them in the smallest act of what you consider infidelity - which may or may not fit into other people's definition. It might be a good idea to give some thought to what acts you consider cheating. Some, for example, would feel betrayed if their partner checked out porn, while others wouldn't even blink an eye (or want to join in). How about flirting, hugging, or going to the strippers? If you draw the line at even the most innocent of acts, it's possible that you have a jealousy issue. If you simply demand complete and utter loyalty from a partner, this may work out just fine - as long as you find someone who has the same high standards and keep the doors of communication open.
Yeah, I pretty much knew that already. It is dead-on except for booting out for minor stuff. Loyalty is a heart thing, not a behavior thing. If she CHEATED on me, it would be over. But we both agreed to that before getting married, so it is no surprise. Cheating, to me, is doing stuff behind the other person's back and without their knowledge or consent, like the situations presented in the test.
AuldSoul

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