Hi ~ new here...
WELCOME, Riverwatcher...lots of good advice here...OC, what you said really touched me.
Anewme, your story is much like mine, I especially like the statement you made
" she occupies a place of honor and respect in my heart the witnesses cannot touch"
That is such a wonderful thing to say, and that is exactly how i felt about my husband's "worldly" family, even before I faded from the organization. They are the salt of the earth, as they say, and have accepted me from day one, even with all my JW quircks, as I too was DF'd when i married my worldly husband, and was reinstated to reclaim my family. They stood by me, even though they were scared out of their minds too.
River, you sound like a wonderful woman, and hopefully your DIL will never forget how loving and caring you've been , from day 1...I'm sure things will be fine, just continue to play it cool. But, I sure hope you don't conform to their way of thinking...be yourself....your grandchild will need a "normal, non-JW" grandma in her life.... I'm ever so grateful, that my children have "normal" grandparents and relatives, outside the organization.
Welcome to the board, RIverwatcher!
As others have said before, you seem quite intelligent AND wise. Love is the answer. I was the JW daughter-in-law with a husband who never converted, but I loved his parents with all my heart. They are wonderful people who loved him, me, and our children without prejudice. They never entered a Kingdom Hall to see what it was all about, and I fall on the side of those who suggest that you not attend meetings nor discuss religion with them. If they make half-hearted attempts to convert you, you can make half-hearted responses to "think about" what they've said. After two years, I doubt your son plans to pressure you to conform to his beliefs.
May you have success with whatever tack you pursue.