Using the phrase "not tattling"...still doesn't make it right. I am not a child and I did not feel the need to run to him and tell on her. It would have been childish. Plain and simple.
Josie....Dammit Girl you always know what to say. May I add the right thing.
Under that concept, he would have been your friend before the change, but he may not be your friend now.
Dave, I was his friend after he changed. I only know him one way, as she does not.
Schne_Belly....I feel for him too. I tried to let him know that.
Forget it find new friends