After reading your topic I wonder if jw parents take a class teaching them how to totally suck as a parent.
I also cannot trust my parents. After the way my mother lost her mind when my sister lost her baby and my father took my mother's side like she did no wrong, I know I cannot trust my parents in a emergency. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/90337/1.ashx
My brother (who hasnt spoken to my parents since it happened in May of this year) and sister feel the same way. My siblings and I have been talking and we finally acknowledged that my mother has been actively trying to poison our relationships by talking about us to each one of us behind the others backs. It had gotten to the point where my brother was hesitant to come visit me because he believed (after talking to my mother) that we would ask him for money, among other things. So we have decided to be a united front. To talk more to each other. To divert or ignore mother when she starts to talk about one of us. And ultimately love and appreciate each other more.
I love you Suzie and Wes,