My sister was expecting a baby, due the first week of July. She lost it about 2 weeks ago, on a Friday. My mother call me frantic, asking if I had spoken to my sister. I said no. Mother proceeds to tell me that my sister had lost the baby and is in the hospital. She stated she wished we all lived closer, I live in Indiana, my sister lives in Texas, and my mother lives in California, and should she fly out to see about my sister. I told her to go, it's your daughter and she needs you. Mother hops a plane that day and flies out to Texas to take care of my sister. In the meanwhile my sister's friends find out what happens and they fly out from all points of the US, to see about my sister also. My mother is a jealous woman when it comes to her kids, especially about the friends of my sister. Doesnt like any of them, feels she's in competition with them, felt that even though it was her daughter in the hospital after losing her baby and fighting for her life because of an elevated blood pressure and the threat of kidney failure, her daughter's attention should only be focused on her. My mother proceed to make an ass of herself. Making snide comments, not showing up at the hospital until noon, acting distance then suddenly possesive about what is going on with my sister. I was speaking to my mother as this was going on and at one point mother tells me that she's thinking of going home since my sister really doesnt want or need her there since she has all of her "friends" around. I told my husband what my mother said and he said she should quit thinking of herself and stay there to support her daughter. I agreed. But less than 5 days after my mother got there crap (for want of a better word) hit the fan. Mother has a fight with sister, in my sister's hospital room and is ejected from the hospital by the nurses. Mother goes to a relative's house. I can't reach her for a day (she turned off her cellphone) and have no idea where she is. I call my sister and find out that mother picked a fight with my sister. I call my father, he says that they had an "incident" and that mother is at the relative's house. I call the relative's house and mother proceeds to tell me her side of the story. But knowing my mother she's not taking any blame for her actions, and totally blames my sister like she was the one behaving badly. Mother hangs up on me because I'm not taking her side. My father gets into a fight with my brother because my brother is not taking mother's side. Sister is really hurt because of my mother actions and now refuses to talk to her, not that my mother is even trying since she thinks she is the victum.
The kicker: My parents went on a cruise 5 days after my sister was re-admitted to the hospital.
Josie