What's your greatest accomplishment?

by serendipity 24 Replies latest jw experiences

  • serendipity

    Ok, folks, here's an opportunity to pat yourself on the back.

    What do you feel is the greatest accomplishment of your life thus far? How did you celebrate it?

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    surviving and being nothing like my parents

    Then my daughters

    then an education

  • mrsjones5

    Our kids, our marriage, my career , our house

  • mrsjones5

    Am I a thread killer or what?

  • serendipity

    Hi MrsJones & Lady Lee,

    How about elaborating a bit. Why were the things you mentioned such accomplishments? I'm a newbie here and don't know your stories.

  • mrsjones5

    My kids: I had problems conceiving so I didnt ever think I would have one much less four.

    My marriage: Married 13 years, in this day and age I think that's pretty good.

    Our house: I used to live in California where only 23 percent of the population can afford a home. I never thought I would be able to buy a house until I moved to Indiana.

    My career: My parents doubted that I would find a job or make any money after I graduated from design school, I proved them wrong.

  • serendipity

    Hi MrsJones,

    Ah, now I understand. You should be very proud !

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    You want the long version or the short version? It'll be easier to post the short one - point form

    • mother got pregnant and as a good Catholic girl decided to marry my father then give the baby (me) up for adoption. Instead she took me home and wound up having 3 more boys.
    • home was physically and emotionally abusive - lots of screaming, yelling, police coming to the house - general mayhem (saw my mother being strangled in her bedroom - she knocked him out before he killed her)
    • mother finally left my father and took the 2 youngest but left the oldest boy and me with a friend
    • father found us and kidnapped us and then the sexual abuse began - got infections - police were called and we went to live with my mother and her boyfriend (who were beginning to study with JWs)
    • Mother already had custody of her 3 brothers and her younger sister (taken from their father for sexual abuse)
    • mother and now Common-Law-husband had a baby
    • so in the apt we had 3 teenaged boys, and 3 boys under the age of 10, my aunt (1 year older than me), me(11 yrs old) my sister (1 yr old) and my grandmother and mother and CL-husband (grandmother and her 3 boys and daughter were all baptized JWs)
    • 1 of the teenaged uncles caught abusing the younger kids - he was the one who got sent away
    • all teen uncles were abusing my aunt and I
    • CLhusband was caught sexually abusing my aunt so PO recommended she be sent to another one of her sisters to live (abuse not reported and abuser left in the house)
    • Then he was caught sexually abusing me - PO recommended I be sent to foster care 0 again keep the abuser and get rid of the victim
    • abuser kidnapped my sister and sexually abused her then he disappeared and soon after mother got baptized
    • in foster care (for 3 years) I was emotionally and physically abused.
    • then went back to live with my mother when I was 16. Forced to quit high school to take care of my sister
    • mother arranges a marriage to a new person at the hall (he got baptized 1 week before we got married (she proposed and set the date)
    • 2 weeks after I was married I knew it was a terrible mistake but had no where to go
    • I stayed and was emotionally and sexually abused by husband who also physicaly and emotionally abused our 2 daughters
    • after 15 years of abuse and becoming dangerously suicidal I committed adultery to get him to leave me alone and get my divorce and was DFed
    • went back to school (college as a mature student and graduated with honors) then went on to University
    • stupidly moved across country and married a man - not too bad in the beginning but as I became more disabled he became more emotionally abusive (more than once he would walk in the door at night and ask if this was the day I was going to "off myself"
    • on my own again and loving it even though dealing with the disability is a hassle but it is nothing compared to all the previous stuff

    Well there's the outline for my book

  • serendipity

    Wow Lady Lee, you are a survivor! You're life started off badly and you tenaciously turned it around. You're a very courageous person to be willing to live alone with a disability. So many would have been afraid to leave. Congrats to you!

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee


    It was either survive it or die. My sister committed suicide 1 month ago. She didn't survive the childhood.

    The disability can be worked around if I have what I need to manage. It is nothing in comparison to all the rest of the crap. And to be positive about it - the crap was a good training ground for surviving

    I'm still here

    Now aren'tcha glad ya asked?

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