My 15 year old phoned her JW father tonight. A relationship between the two does not exist. (I have touched on the reason why in other posts regarding both my children). Anyways, she called to tell him that she found out that he is contacting her school to get her report card and she wanted to know why he just didn't ask her. He said because he has rights. She said that they do not have a relationship, so why go around her like that, that she doesn't want it, it is none of his business etc....
He says that it is not his fault, it is hers that they don't have a relationship. She says that everytime she tries, he is a total ass. He screams that no daughter of his will talk to him like that. She says that she is not his daughter, she is _______'s daughter (her step-dad). He yells,
"Then WHY do I have to pay your way? Pay for yourself then?" (he gives $300 a month for support)
She says, "Fine, I WILL"
He says, "You must not forget the truth, everything I taught you."
She says, "How about I find my own truth?"
He says, "There is nothing out there, there is nothing except the truth."
She tells him to stop it and leave her alone. He yells at her, "THEN GO and get yourself adopted out!" Well, that ended the conversation, she hung up after swearing at him.
Afterwards, we talked about it, and she said, "You know, if he really cared, he would not say those things." My husband, her stepdad is going to now try to adopt her. If he signs her over, the deal will be that he can stop paying child support. I think that is what he really wants anyways. It is all about the money.
Great JW isn't he? (He defines himself first and foremost as a JW, so I will as well.) Great teaching they do!!! Greatest fathers in the world!!! Way to hold your tongue!! Way to not let any abusive speech come from your mouth!! Way to get to your child's heart!!! Way to show love as your identifying mark!!