Birthday celebrations and customs - Are they for Christians?

by AlmostAtheist 173 Replies latest jw friends

  • AlmostAtheist
    AlmostAtheist

    BTW, SS, I wouldn't share your views on oral sex with your local body of elders if I were you:

    and oral sex within marriage is not a sin, by the way. yeah, I know that certain uptight elders would impose there nonsense on other people, like side-burns in America, depending on what state you're in.

    The Watchtower's current view is that this IS a sin. If you're known to engage in it (who would tell?!?!), you wouldn't be able to serve in any capacity in the congregation.

    I can't point you to a scripture for why they take that stand (since, as you pointed out, there isn't one) but you can call them up and ask them. That's how I verified it. Their number is 718-560-5000.

    Dave

  • sweetscholar
    sweetscholar

    the view of the WT on this matter was even more dogmatic in the past. but in 1979 they toned down their uptight view. one time they called oral sex between husband and wife "fornication" which of course it is not. and they clarified and corrected that. because fornication is "porniea" in Greek and refers to any sexual misconduct OUTSIDE marriage. so "oral sex play and stimulation" in marriage would not apply. of course you have uptight dogmatic farts in Bethel Headquarters and imposing stuff-shirt Elders. but in reality, they don't have it as a disfellowshipping offense. but as something discouraged, blah blah. they don't generally discuss that in the literature, you'll notice. so calling them up as you say you did, you got some fart on the phone giving his uptight crap on the subject. GRAIN OF SALT. that doesn't really count. the official literature says no disfellowshipping. cuz there should not be. but I know that officially they don't have an encouraging view of oral sex in marriage. I though encourage it big time. cuz it's fun, healthy, and not a sin. in fact, Song of Solomon had a very oral fixation. and it was ENcouraged. any kind of body play and mouth play and stimulation is ok in marriage. it's like whatever. can't get too uptight about things too much. but masturbation is unnatural and debilitating. yeah yeah, you'll claim, some of you, that "it's natural to me". but the only reason any guy ever does that is because he does not have the woman there in front of him to do it for him, which is what instinctively he REALLY wants and NEEDS. (sex is a biological NEED, not just a desire. studies show that sex at least once or twice a week improves health, well-being, mental alertness, and have fewer colds and flues, and fewer depression. therapeutic and calming. good for the nerves, muscles, and body chemistry. whereas masturbation reaps the opposite for some reason. we were meant to be held and touched BY SOMEONE ELSE of the opposite sex, not touched by ourselves.)

    masturbation debilitates and weakens overall. I know. from personal experience in the past, and from experiences I've seen of others. plus what I've read on the subject. te bio-chemical reaction in our bodies, with masturbation. we were not really meant to stimulate ourselves sexually, but to be stimulated by SOMEONE ELSE, of the opposite sex. that's the ideal natural healthy thing and way to go. but I know that it's not always easy, and it's not a perfect world or perfect life we live in right now.

    at least the WT does not hold the same uptight view that they used to have and that Jerry Falwell and Pat Robertson still have. and on this I totally disagree with the WT. policing marriage bedrooms is over-stepping. Leviticus does not mention it although other weird things are mentioned. that should tell us something. God doesn't care about oral sex in marriage. there are more important things than that. I said from the get go, if you had red everything I wrote from the beginning that I agree with 99.99% of the positions of the WT, and 99.99% doesn't mean 100. they aint infallible, but they iz darn close, as far as doctrine. cuz the Bible is infallible, and they base their positions on the Bible. yes, they've gone overboard on things here and there. human nature. and they even admitted that. being "over-righteous much" and "over-scrupulous much" (Ecclesiastes 7:16). but I did not bring up "oral sex". that other guy did. I mentioned "masturbation" as an example. so we're digressing. the WT has not spent 5 pages on oral sex between husband and wife in thousands and thousands and thousands of pages over the decades. it's not that big a deal to them, in that sense, and it's something that choose unnecessary to spend vast amounts of time with. cuz there are bigger issues. The Bible does not condemn but CONDONES oral sex (Song of Solomon and Proverbs 5).

    Leviticus doesn't mention a word on it, though all other kinds of sex issues and rules were mentioned, that you can imagine.

    the point is that with birthday celebrations there IS some internal Biblical evidence and principles involved. more than "eye paint". so I wish you'd come off the "eye paint" argument already. that got old and tired about 5 postings ago. cuz I already addressed that thoroughly enough. heavy use of makeup is not encouraged either by the WT. although somehow you missed that. Jezebel did her hair up too. so what? it was a narrative of what happened. birthday celebrations, though in both cases was narrative, also involves paganism now and then. self-worship. vanity, and hot air customs, that Christ nor His Holy Disciples ever engaged in. and "pants" or "ski trips" or "bowling" are not arguments even worth addressing. cuz that's a lousy comparison. the eye paint is a better comparison, but not the greatest either. cuz again, the WT does condemn whorish heavy make-up and caking on your face excessively too. moderation with that. tootles. (also, enough about the oral sex. it's a dead subject, and off the subject of this thread. I already addressed it. I was not the one who even brought up oral sex. it was that other guy. I only mentioned masturbation in passing. but I stated the facts on oral sex already. the WT at one time was way too dogmatic and stuffy about it, then they got better, and toned down their uptight view. but if they still discourage it, and are still somewhat uptight about it, they don't make big headlines in articles about it, cuz it's like whatever. The WT overall, after all is said and done, despite their imperfections and FALLIBILITY, and occasional over-scrupulosity, still have the purest and most logical explanation of the Holy Bible out of any other church, religion, group, denomination, writer, or teacher I've ever encountered. and believe me. I've studied and examined them all. tootles.)

  • AlmostAtheist
    AlmostAtheist
    but I did not bring up "oral sex". so we're digressing.

    Agreed. Let's drop the "oral fixation" for now.

    I wish you'd come off the "eye paint" argument already. that got old and tired about 5 postings ago. cuz I already addressed that thoroughly enough.

    Do you honestly think you've addressed it? From my perspective, you've dismissed it, but not addressed it. I have raised several points about the correlations between makeup and birthdays, but you haven't spoken to those correlations. (Not much, at least)

    heavy use of makeup is not encouraged either by the WT. although somehow you missed that. Jezebel did her hair up too. so what? it was a narrative of what happened. birthday celebrations, though in both cases was narrative, also involves paganism now and then. self-worship. vanity, and hot air customs, that Christ nor His Holy Disciples ever engaged in.

    Ok, we're not talking about excessive use of makeup. Excessive anything is generally frowned upon in the Bible. That's not the issue.

    Here's the issue, and this is what you need to address in order to consider the JW birthday position defended:

    1. Both birthdays and eye makeup are mentioned only twice in the Bible.
    2. Both are only mentioned in association with wicked unbelievers.
    3. Both are mentioned only in passing and are not actually relevant to what the Bible is actually talking about in those verses.
    4. Both have pagan origins.
    5. Both (by your definition) involve vanity and drawing attention to self.

    Do you disagree with any of the above listed points? If so, please explain your disagreement.

    The WT overall, after all is said and done, despite their imperfections and FALLIBILITY, and occasional over-scrupulosity, still have the purest and most logical explanation of the Holy Bible

    This is also digressing, let's stick to the single topic for now. (But I have to say, I LOVE the word "over-scrupulosity"!)

    Dave

  • LittleToe
    LittleToe

    SS:You seem to have an issue with "emotions". Pray tell me, were we created with them or are they a result of the "fall of Adam"?

  • Pistoff
    Pistoff

    " think it's fair that any reasoning used to knock birthdays should be evenly applied. So for instance if it is thought that celebrating birthday's brings too much attention to a single person ("creature worship"), then all such celebrations should be forbidden -- wedding anniversarys, baby showers, etc. Is that reasonable? If not, why not?

    Likewise, if a practice is to be forbidden due to its pagan origins, then other practices also linked to pagan practices should be forbidden -- wind chimes, wedding veils, pinatas, etc. Again, this is reasonable, isn't it?"

    PLEASE. I don't think anyone is being worshipped at a birthday party, do you?

    It is a custom. I don't think the grand creator of heaven, earth and the universe is going to be irritated that you blow out the candles and eat some cake.

  • Pistoff
    Pistoff

    sweetscholar said:

    "masturbation debilitates and weakens overall. I know. from personal experience in the past, and from experiences I've seen of others. (???) plus what I've read on the subject. te bio-chemical reaction in our bodies, with masturbation. we were not really meant to stimulate ourselves sexually, but to be stimulated by SOMEONE ELSE, of the opposite sex. that's the ideal natural healthy thing and way to go. but I know that it's not always easy, (amen, brother) and it's not a perfect world or perfect life we live in right now."

    Mmm. Ok. So, can you produce the empirical data that says your weenie pays off benefits depending on where it releases?

    I will wait for the thesis on this one, not so sweetscholar.

    P

  • Pistoff
    Pistoff

    SS said:

    "The WT overall, after all is said and done, despite their imperfections and FALLIBILITY, and occasional over-scrupulosity, still have the purest and most logical explanation of the Holy Bible."

    How about this one:

    The OT is the story a people searching for God, and tried to make every part of their life in some way a message from that God, both good and bad.
    The NT is the story of the followers of a truly great leader who completely MISS THE POINT of what he was saying: YOU DO NOT NEED TO BE ORGANIZED TO WORSHIP, IF FACT II IS USUALLY A CORRUPT MESS.

    How's that?

  • SWALKER
    SWALKER

    I find it rather strange that every guys birth is recorded from Adam to Christ and no one celebrated the day they came into the world? The Bible talks about what a wonderful thing having children is and then we can't celebrate the day they come into our lives? I believe that it was so common for people to celebrate birthdays that the Bible writers didn't think they had to even mention it. The Israelites celebrated everything...the harvest, the festival of booths, etc., they had a celebration every few months....JW's call the Memorial a celebration, how sad! I think even God would tell JW's to celebrate more and enjoy life more!

    Swalker

  • sweetscholar
    sweetscholar

    hi. I'm a bit in a rush right now. So I'm copying and pasting some of what I wrote to this guy "AuldSoul" in another thread link. and his hang up against "central authority" (Hi Korah, Dathan, and Abiran, that JUDE THE CHRISTIAN ELDER APPLIED TO THE CHRISTIAN IN THE "NEW TESTAMENT" Jude 11,12; Numbers 16) it goes into a little bit about, if carefully and HONESTLY and thoroughly analyzed and examined, the First Century True Christian Church (and they were not perfect in everything either) were "organized and centralized" with a "governing body" in Jerusalem for a while, and whose decisions (with the Holy Spirit, not instead of the Holy Spirit) were BINDING on the rest of the local congregations. I know, Almost, that this is another digression. but that guy brought it up. about "no organization in the NT" which is patently inaccurate. and you might be right that I did not totally totally address the eye paint comparison thing. I did not totally "dismiss it" either though. but I could have gone more into your points about it too. sorry I didn't. I will in my next posting. I did make a somewhat decent point though, you must admit, that Jezebel did her hair up too. but you never mentioned her hair being made beautiful and whatever. I was saying that comparing it with A FORMAL CEREMONIAL CAKE, DRUID PAGAN CANDLES, DECORATIONS, SELF-HONORING, SELF-GLORIFYING ELABORATE YEARLY THING "birthday celebrations" that pagan fools did in the Bible is a wee bit of a stretch. but I promise, I'll address the specific points you raised a bit later. for now, to the guy who thinks it's only in the "OT" that there's organization, and not in the "NT", he needs to read this, (and I have more on that subject written to ther people, this is just a tid-bit,) and read the Word of God a bit more carefully:

    now, again, Auldsoul, you keep bringing up 1 John 2:27 and reciting that ad nauseum about "not needing a teacher" ripping it out of context and also dismissing SO MANY OTHER VERSES IN THE NEW TESTAMENT where it says "teacher teacher teacher teacher". for you to use the Eunech to try to back up your Korah like apostasy is insane. his own words to Philip, and don't gloss over them, is "how can I know sir without somone to teach me," and he was NOT referring to just the "Holy Spirit" either. the same is true in the matter with Cornlius. Peter, an Elder and Rep of the visibile Church and Arrangement, and not just the Holy Spirit alone, was needed. the Ethiopian was reading God's Word, but he needed a live visible TEACHER. to guide him. so your constant appeal to 1 John when that was talking about being taught to "know the Lord" (compare Hebrews 8:11), and the context was about people trying to MISLEAD them (2:26), not referring to true authoritative apostolic teachers, not understanding the pertinent context of that statement, and making a religion out of it almost, is very auspicious.

    because what do you do with all the other verses that say "the apostles and elders direct and bind you" and "how can I know without a teacher" and "be obedient to those taking the lead among you and teaching you, giving the double honor". etc? and also analyze it. John himself was TEACHING them by writing his very epistle. there are many teaching and study points in his letters. if teaching was absolutely unnecessary by apostles and elders then why are there such things as apostles and elders in the first place, and why did John have to write anything to them about "Christ's Blood" and "keep His commandments" and about "anti-Christ"? yes it was inspired Scripture, but the point is that Paul said "be obedient to those takeing the lead and be submissive" (unlike Korah with Moses). and Philip TAUGHT that Eunech, even though that Ethiopian had Scripture in his possession. why did Paul and the Apostles and Elders meet and convene and decide matters and added "these NECESSARY things" on all the congregations, if those congregations had the Spirit and that's all that was needed?? no answers to that at all I notice. I never down-played the Spirit. but you're saying it's that and just that, end of discussion.

    it was the Governing Body AND the Spirit that "laid those necessary things" working together, not instead of each other. let's not go bananas on 1 John 2, and shut our eyes to everything else in the Greek New Testament, Acts, Hebrews, 1,2 Corinthians, Jude, Reveletion 3, etc. there's a balance, in other words. also, one other thing. it says "anointing" right?? well that would apply to the anointed ones mainly. but that's a whole other debate and discussion. but even so, the Christians in the first century clearly received guidance, direction, and teaching from human elders and authority. they were not private intepreters claiming to go by just God's Spirit. that's what we have in chaotic Christendom today, especially Protestantism. a mish mosh of conflicting sects, denominations, cults, groups, all claing to go just by the Bible and by the Spirit. yet having many differences in doctrine and practice. what does that say? later.

  • AlmostAtheist
    AlmostAtheist

    Hey SS,

    I sincerely hope your post about the "governing body" and "teachers" and all that was not a prelude to a discussion about the fact that whatever the Faithful and Discreet Slave says, goes, and if they condemn birthdays then that's that. If so, of course, all our reasoning on the matter is for naught. I don't think you would've gone to all the work you've done so far on this thread, only to play your FDS trump card now. Please don't. Let us stick to the Bible and our reasoning abilities.

    I did make a somewhat decent point though, you must admit, that Jezebel did her hair up too. but you never mentioned her hair being made beautiful and whatever.

    And the pagan's that celebrated their birthdays also had dancing, and alcohol, and drank from gold cups. But you didn't mention any of that, since it wasn't the point you were trying to make. Perhaps on another discussion about alcohol, a person might point to the alcohol consumption at the party, and ignore the birthday aspect. In this case, I am showing the only examples in the Bible of eye makeup. That hair was also involved is immaterial. Yes, she put on the makeup as a part of an overall plan to beautify herself. And no, I seriously doubt she put on the makeup to protect herself from evil spirits. But neither do I believe that the birthday celebrations in the Bible included a candle-laden birthday cake, wrapped presents, balloons, or any of the other traditional trappings. And I certainly don't believe they were in honor of pagan gods -- they were in honor of the birthday boys!

    I was saying that comparing it with A FORMAL CEREMONIAL CAKE, DRUID PAGAN CANDLES, DECORATIONS, SELF-HONORING, SELF-GLORIFYING ELABORATE YEARLY THING "birthday celebrations" that pagan fools did in the Bible is a wee bit of a stretch. but I promise, I'll address the specific points you raised a bit later.

    Then I'll hold my tongue and anxiously await your return. :-)

    for now, to the guy who thinks it's only in the "OT" that there's organization, and not in the "NT", he needs to read this

    What do you say we stay on topic for this one? We can always start a new thread later on "organization". (Or simply add to the many already underway!)

    Dave

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