LisaVegas....I'm afraid there are many cold hearted "grandma's" out there. Sorry to hear you're linked to one. Just look at the person you became, though, because of learning from the how NOT to act.
Cordelia, I'd be very careful to allow any contact, especially without you present. Speak with GaryB and others who have had their children kidnapped from under the parent's noses. My parents did it with my eldest 3. They signed court affidavits saying I was suicidal (for leaving the truth and wanting to willfully die at the hand of God) and was a bad mother (doing this threatened the spiritual well-being of my children), of course they left out the parts in parenthesis. They will stop at nothing to get your children no matter what the cost to you, as their child. Remember, they think they are "saving" your child, from YOU! Such love.
Quotes from my court orders:
These are some of the truest, harshest words in court documents today about the JW religion and I use them to help others in court. My ex got custody on the condition that he abide by these.....which of course he doesn't do, they are issued from "Satan's judicial system" and it's a test of his true faith.
"Mr. M shall not directly or indirectly expose or allow the children to be exposed to shunning of their mother, or to engage in any family contacts or religious activities that directly or indirectly suggest or expose them to teachings, scriptural interpretations or declarations that Mrs. M is anything less than a good and honorable person and fully worthy of designated, implied, inferred, promised, reserved, assumed, or otherwise available, obtainable or receivable, so called spiritual blessings or rewards which might be obtained or available to faithful religious persons, including faithful members of the JW church. This shall include his exposure of the children to family members, church teachers, preachers, or other advocates of the JW church or to any condemning doctrines or activities. Mr. M shall not have, suggest or cause any religious communications with the chidlren, advise them regarding religion or direct or advise them regarding what their personal conduct or religious activities
should be, or monitor their activities to determine if they are in
compliance with his religious beliefs, while they are with Mrs. M."
"The court believes this conduct negatively affecting the children's relationship with their mother should stop or be condemned. This church judgementalism, coupled with the malicious use of false accusations against their mother and her husband by their father, has nearly frightened these children away from their mother and her husband even though she is a sincere caring mother. Recognizing the children's concerns and fears, the Court ordered that Mr. M be granted custody of the children, at least for the past year. This was granted notwithstanding the terrible wrongs he has perpetrated against his ex-wife and her husband. Mrs. M is treated as spiritually dead by the JW church and the extended family who are members. This rediculous concept of people judging others appears to be a strong part of the religious judgementalistic doctrine and is apparently required of the members of the church."
"...so long as these children attend church and are indoctrinated in the "only true way" as interpreted by that church, they will continue to be exposed to negative judgmentalism and derogation of their mother...Mr. M's religious zeal has apparently caused him to justify his gross misconduct in this case...."