My Beautiful Momma

by Billygoat 36 Replies latest members private

  • Billygoat
    Billygoat

    This was prompted by another thread discussing how fathers sometimes have a hard time with letting go of their daughters. I know my relationship with my father has always been strained due to several issues. One, I'm bull headed - just like him. Two, physically, I'm the spitting image of my mother, whom he was divorced from just 4 years after the marriage. I thought I'd share some photos of my momma, back when she was young and innocent. She was 22 - 25 years old in these shots. I've also enclosed some pictures of me, so you can see the resemblance. (Except I'm 31 - 33 in a couple of them. I'm about 2 or 3 in the last family pictures.) I even have her droopy eyelid, which she got from her mother. LOL!

  • Frannie Banannie
    Frannie Banannie

    Yes, they show up just fine. She's absolutely lovely, BG, as are you! What a beautiful heritage!

    Frannie

  • Purza
    Purza

    She is beautiful Andi. And you look just like her.

    Purza

  • MegaDude
    MegaDude

    Andi,

    Have you ever considered sending your story to a Japanese TV show? Surely they have talk shows like Americans do. Perhaps they'd like to put your story on TV there. I think it would make an excellent human interest story.

    Just a thought.

  • MerryMagdalene
    MerryMagdalene

    Hi, Andi~

    What beautiful pictures! Thank you for sharing them. There certainly is a strong resemblance between the two of you!

    I never new my father but my mother always told me how much I reminded her of him, physically and personality-wise (and not always in a good way).

    Family relationships certainly can be complex. ~Merry

  • damselfly
    damselfly

    So beautiful, the both of you!!

    dams

  • Billygoat
    Billygoat
    Andi,

    Have you ever considered sending your story to a Japanese TV show? Surely they have talk shows like Americans do. Perhaps they'd like to put your story on TV there. I think it would make an excellent human interest story.

    Just a thought.

    I have thought about it. I don't think I'd do it though. Knowing what little I know of my mother's culture, it would be very disrespectful to air such private family matters on Japanese television. Having a half-American child is still not looked at highly, even in today's modern world. I've thought about a newspaper ad of some sort to see if I could find her, but it costs hundreds of dollars, which I don't have. I did recently find out from my father, what city her childhood home was in. So now that I have that piece of information, I might be able to find her birth records. In Japan, all your legal records (birth certificates, marriage licenses, etc.) always reside in the city of your birth. I don't know if this city was the city of her birth, but it's worth a shot. Closest thing I've had in years to finding her. My gut feeling is someday it's going to happen. And I think it might be sooner rather than later.

  • Honesty
  • Sassy
    Sassy

    She's beautiful just like you Andi!!

  • Billygoat
    Billygoat

    Thanks everyone! I look nothing like my father or anyone on his side of the family. Growing up, I always felt like I was not part of the family. My dad remarried, they had twins. Everyone in our little family was paired up except for me. I felt very left out and lonely. I think that contributed to my rebelliousness as a teenager...I felt I had nobody of my own.

    Now that I'm older, I find my physical resemblance to my mother rather fascinating...unsettling sometimes. I've seen a few pictures of her and thought they were me. I remember thinking, "I don't remember that being taken." LOL But I do wonder about other similarities...like if I sound like her or if the wrinkles on my fingers look like hers. I wonder if she has that little freckle on her thigh like I do. I wonder if our mannerisms or laughs are similar. She is approximately 56 now. I wonder if I'll look like her later as she does now in her 50's.

    Sometimes I am jealous of other mother and daughters I see. Like my sisters-in-law and my mother-in-law - they're very close, all three of them. Or Princess and Mulan. I can't imagine having my mom in my life, watching me and guiding me as I start my family. Or going shopping for baby clothes together. Or getting advice on health or life issues. Truly, I wonder what that's like. I have no idea.

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