by kwintestal 21 Replies latest members private
For the first time since Mrs. Kwin and myself left the JW org, our two kids were invited to have a sleep over at Grandma's and Grandpa's house (they're 7 and 4 1/2 and this is the first time they've been invited). They'll be staying over Saturday night and more then likely "invited" to attend the meeting. I'm sure the kids can live through another meeting since they endured years of that sort of torture, but it just makes me uneasy and I don't know if there's any reason to be.
Kwin
Since I decided against baptism, our kids haven't slept over my parents' house yet. [Parents are dad, non-religious and step-mom, a jw] I know for a fact that they will go to the meeting with her and my stepbro (jw), and be taught their viewpoints. Will your children have to go to the kh?
Gina and I know the grandparents will try to teach the troof to our kids. We talked about it and we're ok with it. We know we can refute whatever they say. And Zach's so very much against JW's now, since that's why grandma and grampa soon won't be able to talk to me. We figure we're better off letting them say whatever they want to say, then later explaining why it's wrong, rather than "shielding" them from it all, and having it pop back into their lives later when we won't be so readily available to refute it.
Not advice, just relating our reasoning on it. I'll let you know in 20 years or so if I can start offering this as "advice"!
Dave
hm my kids have slept over my parents' house but have never been to a meeting. My parents know my feelings about my kids attending hall and have been very nice to abide by my wishes.
Josie
by the way I have 4 (boy 10, girl 7, boy 4, boy 1)
simple solution....
let the sleepover start on friday nite and pick up on saturday morning....
let grandman and grandpa have their sundays to "give to Jehovah"
We were thinking of picking up the kids at 9:30 (before the meeting) but our daughter said even though she doesn't like it, she wouldn't mind going to see her friends she doesn't see anymore. Cults suck.
Kwin
kwin, is there no way the grandparents could do something else besides go to meeting with your kids? I have made it a condition of my parents being with their grandchildren. No meetings and no preachin period. It can be done in a tactful manner and one would hope they would respect your descision as the parent. It took my parents some time to get a clue and come around, but when they didn't accept my wishees then they simply didn't see the kids. I mean really, why would you want children to have to sit through 2 hours of that crap in the first place, if not to indoctrinate them?
Sincerely,
District Overbeer
I agree with Franklin about the Friday nights. My kids are still little and My Mother is a JW and would take my kids to the meetings on Sunday so to aviod that issue I would do a friday night. With my husband's side they left a few years ago and thats nice because I won't ever have to worry about them throwing the bible down my kids throats! Its a sad situation and shouldn't have to be a hard one but it is. Maybe in time it will be different.
Brooke
let the sleepover start on friday nite and pick up on saturday morning....
Bookstudy is on Saturday morning, and WT on Sunday.
is there no way the grandparents could do something else besides go to meeting with your kids?
We'll have to talk to them about it but I doubt it. It's just a sore topic to bring up and my mom will start crying cuz we're going to die at armageddon, you all know the drill. I'll have to grow some balls and deal with it! Just sucks cuz I don't want to upset them, that's all.
Kwin
My wife's parents are still very active.
She finally told them not to take her 8 year old son to the meetings. They didn't know what quite to think.
