I've had a really crap few weeks, and its just got much worse today. My ex, who dumped me because I stopped going to meetings a month ago, phoned me this afternoon very upset. She was upset because she'd been out at the weekend and went off with a man she met and was feeling guilty, so she rang me because she was upset. she said she was going to jump in front of the next train that came into the station. I had to talk her round by helping her to feel better about what had happened. My heads in bits now, don't know what to do anymore. I was meant to be working nightshift for the next week but I've been sent home unfit for duty.
My heads in bits
by Gadget 42 Replies latest members private
-
-
Stacy Smith
Sounds like she's yanking hard on those emotional heartstrings. You sure you want to continue with her?
-
tinkerbell82
((((((gadget))))))
god, don't you wish exes would just GO AWAY? you know, i was recently in a sort of similar situation right now, and i got a lot of great advice from a lot of people. ultimately, you are not responsible for her actions. i know it sucks to think that way because you care about her as a person, but realize that any harm she does to herself is only her fault, NOT yours. don't let her drag you down into her misery. i'm so sorry, i wish you didnt have to deal with this. it sucks.
-
Nathan Natas
Next time, tell her "OK" and hang up on the b!tch.
-
Aztec
Don't let her drag you around like that! She's emotionally manipulating you! Doesn't she have anyone else she can call?
~Aztec
-
Phantom Stranger
Obviously you're still important to each other - that's why she called you, of course.
You have mentioned that you only went to the meeting Sunday as part of your plan to try to win her back. If she went off for the weekend with a guy, is she feeling guilty about that from a JW perspective? Or is the main thing her feelings towards you?
-
Simon
Gadget ... I can imagine how you feel.
Gawd what a tough situation - I can see why you want to help her but you shouldn't just be there as an emotional punch-bag for her.
I think *she* really needs to make some choices about what she wants to do.
-
Stacy Smith
My opinion is she made this phone call for the simple purpose of making Gadget jealous. Does she want him back? She wants him to want her first, then she'll decide.
It's a cruel and easy game to play unless you don't have anyone to play with.
Don't play. Get a girlfriend if you're lonely, they're everywhere.
-
ignored_one
Why doesn't she see the loving elders who can recommend that she do more, more more?
-
Ignored One.
-
avishai
Dude! When i was younger, I seemed to attract nothing but psychos. I have had this trip or some form of it pulled on me MULTIPLE times. It's bullshit. Tell her to go get professional counseling, or you & then maybe you'll talk. Until then, you wont. If you do keep talking to her, your just enabling her. You are NOT the only thing betweeen her & being nuts, it just seems that way in the moment. Plus, your not trained, hence your just still enabling her head tripping ways.