Do I just respect her JW beliefs and let her be?

by misspeaches 30 Replies latest members private

  • misspeaches
    misspeaches

    A couple of weeks ago I admitted to my die hard JW mum that I attend another church now. She took it very calmly much to my shock and left the subject alone from there on.

    Last night I was talking to her again and she came out with this remark: I respect that you worship in a different way to me. I know that you have good morals, ethics and principles.

    Now if she wanted to she could let the elders know that I am going to another church and they could disphellowship me. But she is keeping quiet on it apparently. Also to top it off she is going to respect that I worship differently to her!

    So does this mean I show her the same respect back and just let her be with her beliefs. Not try to disprove the witnesses and show them the zillions of things that have been covered up and lied about? I mean she is extremely devoted to them. Her life is centered on Jehovah.

    For so long I've been wanting to open her eyes to the JW's because of how many times I've seen her personally hurt by their lack of love. But do I just let it go?

  • Kristofer
    Kristofer

    wow..what a tough situation. I think you should let it be for now. I think the conversation will come up in the future and then you will have your chance. But I wouldn't be the instigator.

  • osmosis
    osmosis

    Respect her, not her beliefs. Beliefs should be questioned, not "respected".

    Or in other words, hate the belief, love the believer.

  • AuldSoul
    AuldSoul

    misspeaches,

    It seems like she is already sharply in contrast with their way of doing things, "die hard JW" or not. I would let this one simmer. She will ask you questions eventually.

    Respectfully,
    AuldSoul

  • misspeaches
    misspeaches

    Good point... I think that she is just slowly digesting how my life is now. Going away thinking about it and deciding how she wants to act upon it.

    What about trying to manipulate situations that prompt her to ask questions that I can discuss with her...? I just don't know...

  • AuldSoul
    AuldSoul

    Now that she knows, there'd be nothing offensive in talking about various church activities you are engaging in. That might open a lot of doors all by itself. Depending on the kind of church, you might mention things like the activities they have for kids and how nice you think it is they take such an interest in the young ones, etc. Casually mention any programs they might have for caring for the needs of elderly ones.

    Just an idea.

    Respectfully,
    AuldSoul

  • merfi
    merfi

    I agree with AS on this one -- tell her the positive (when given the chance -- agree also about not instigating) about what you believe now, don't tell her the negatives of what she believes. Flies, honey and all that.

    ~merfi

  • misspeaches
    misspeaches

    Hmmmm good point. And an easy one for me too. The church is VERY involved in caring for the community and cater extremely well to the kids.... Yes your right. Emphasise the positive things they do...

  • JamesThomas
    JamesThomas

    The way in which you framed your question, peaches, strongly suggests that you already know what to do.

    Trust your .

    j

  • Virgochik
    Virgochik

    Maybe don't push her too fast. She's already been amazing! The door has been left open and she will ask questions as she feels comfortable.

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