Should the age of consent for sexual acts be changed?

by RubyTuesday 59 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse

  • xLaurax
    xLaurax

    lol truthseeker!!! I've been here all the time

    Lyin eyes i know that you have the protective mother figure inside you but being a 16 year old girlin the Uk means that i am legally allowed to have sex at any given time. Harmless flirting onthis chatroom doesn not mean a thing. At 16 i do feel ready to have sex. Maybe this is just me but it really is what i believe.I think that 12 is WAY too young and 18 is just too old because the majority of teenagers have already had sex by this age.

    I believe it depend upon the individual and agree that the age gap is a big part of the matter.Two young people may feel that they are ready to have sex and may actually feel more sexually mature than somebosy single in their 40's!!! It's what circumstances dictate really and changing the law will not really affect ones actions.

    xLaurax

  • XQsThaiPoes
    XQsThaiPoes

    http://www.bet.com/articles/0%2C1048%2Cc3gb3085-3753-1%2C00.html#boardsAnchor

    Ages of consent in the USA. /\

    Please explain how it is bigoted to make laws designed to prevent the abuse of children by adults. I'm all in favour of teens not being criminalised if they are early developers and experiment with those of like age, but you're denying children protection from adult sexual predators.

    The laws do not prevent abuse they declare abuse. Being an adult sexual predator is already illegal. Everyone is already protected by law from adult sexual predators. These laws are bigoted because they allow "children" to have sex with each other, but not "adults". If you said for example sex under 21 is illegal, then the law is fair but stupid. I could understand that law even if It was out of touch with demographics. The laws just give parents legal recourse to parents that get pissed off their son or daughter is a mall to some playboy.

    Please provide evidence that 'in the rest of the world' prostitution does not cause exploitation. I'm all in favour of legalising it as that reduces expolitation, but to make the claim you have made you either have startling new evidence or are talking nonsense.

    I was commenting to chevystats false assumption that "The exploitation of women in such a manner has been going on virtually since the beginning of time, but to legalize it, and condone it is not right." She is against even your stance of legalizing it. She is also ignores that men are exploited just like women. I can't prove my stance that prostitution employs males and females, and that male prostitution is not a rare thing like some pretend. You also can't prove that other forms of nonsexual work are not exploitative in an area where one source of employment is the only option for that area such as mine towns in Russia.

    No, you are arresting someone for (as an example) going to Thailand and having vaginal, anal and oral sex with a 14 year-old girl who was SOLD by her parents to a madam or pimp. You are arresting someone for going to a Eastern European country specifically because of the trade in human being that exists in some of them, and having sex with under-age girls kept captive by criminal gangs. Often they are arrested for doing something illegal in the part of the world where they were, but that they gpt away with because the country they were in is developing and has corrupt or poor policing.

    I'm quite happy with that. Why aren't you, or are you just running off at the mouth without having thought something through?

    They are ignoring the right of a sovereign state including the USA. Also it is the countries job to enforce its laws already in place. The age of consent in Thailand your example is 15 just like Colorado. What is wrong with having "having vaginal, anal and oral sex" with a 15 year old if it is legal? You describe something already illegal and decided to pretend it is legal for your example. Your examples are stupid. Holland has declared the world age of consent 18 just because it felt like it. You are admitting it is not Holland?s problem then saying they are right for doing someone else?s job. Why doesn't Holland overtly send teams of police in to other countries to kidnap criminals and make them face charges there. Oh right that would cause a war.

    Ah, that would be b/ then, "running off at the mouth without having thought something through". Yes, of course, you must be right, the Netherlands, famous for coffee shops where you can buy cannabis, legalised prostitution, low age-of-consent and very very liberal view of pornography (you want tied up and whipped WITH animals or without? just ask) is actually a svage totalitarian reigeme.

    You are like most people that ignore the idea of a sovereign state. If it is in another country and the other country does not obey your laws you can't police by proxy. You can embargo, lobby, or tariff but that is it. They can legalize murder inside Holland it still makes them wrong. I knew that already BTW. Should americans arrest americans for smoking pot on vacation in holland or going with animals? If you say yes they you are fair but impracticle.

    Explain this 'reasoning'.

    These laws do not prevent abuse or exploitation of children. They just declare everything abuse if it is under a certain age. They are doing it because it politically feels good.

    Actually, many got married when their parents told them they could and to whom they said they could get married to; and it would have been in line with the law of the time.

    I said, "if they had the choice." You are also conveniently thinking places like Africa Asia and middle east. Not American farm towns or plantations. Also arrange marriages are not wrong in fact it has been practices for thousands of years and people are still thriving in places that practice them.

    Face it you are just in a gruff with me because I tell it like it is and I am not so elitist or idealistic. Most of these laws age of consent laws do zero good. They just declare new classes of criminals with a broad bush. It is like declaring spam a crime. I am not for assaulting or raping minors. But if it is legal for the "minor" to have or engage in sex with anyone then the law is not preventing sex just enforcing a new taboo.

    Addadon if you wish explain in detail how a 15 year old having consensual sex with a 15 year old should be legal, but a 15 year old having consensual sex with a 30 year old should be illegal. While I don't have statistics I would assume the 30 year old would more likely use "protection" and prevent teen pregnancy. It is a unjust law and stupid. Do you support making sodomy illegal again too? Or abortion? Or interracial marriages? There is no difference with these gap laws. Just more modern porneia.

  • Abaddon
    Abaddon

    XQ

    The laws do not prevent abuse they declare abuse.

    I didn't say they prevented abuse, I said what they were designed to prevent abuse.

    Being an adult sexual predator is already illegal. Everyone is already protected by law from adult sexual predators.

    The original post refered to a set of goals, one of which was the reduction of the age-of-consent. This did not specify if it was a wholesale change (from 16 to 12) or a change to a stepped rule (like those I gave as examples). Obviously a wholesale reduction would remove the protection from adult sexual predators currently enjoyed by those currenty defined as under-age.

    These laws are bigoted because they allow "children" to have sex with each other, but not "adults".

    Why is that bigoted? Is it bigoted that featherweight boxers can't fight heavyweight boxers? Is it bigoted that Formula One races are not open to F16 jet fighters? Is it bigoted that you are only licensed to drive when you have proved you are competant?

    First I think you're approaching this from the assumption sex is wrong. It isn't.

    If sex isn't wrong, then the legal involvement in sex should be reduced to that of minimising and protecting from harm.

    As adolescents, no matter how clever they think they are, are in need of protection from adult sexual predators, it is right there are rules to help protect them.

    However, there is no equivalent need for protection from what is arguably (and there is plenty of anthropological evidence to back this up) natural sexual exploration by and between adolescents PROVIDED it is between approximate equals and there is a suitable educational background.

    I think you really need to be more careful about how you phrase things XQ; you clearly stated that you thought "In the rest of the no so nice word prostitution is not exploitation. It is work for men, and women.". I responded to that. If you don't mean that, don't state it. And as regard the relative numbers of men and women in prostitution, if you wanted to you could find facts and figures of this and show whether your claim is true. Just saying that you can't prove your stance is sheer laziness; the stats are out there.

    You also can't prove that other forms of nonsexual work are not exploitative in an area where one source of employment is the only option for that area such as mine towns in Russia.

    Ah, so I can't prove that things I didn't mention aren't things I didn't say they are? Why not try making your own statements accurate, rather than attributing claims I didn't make to me?

    As regards the policy of sentencing people for having sex with children when outside of the country of residence, you should realise that the USA has more-or-less the same law as the Netherlands in this regard. Your ignorance of your own countries legislation makes your ill-informed rant about the Netherlands hilarious.

    They are ignoring the right of a sovereign state including the USA.

    And you are ignoring human rights.

    Also it is the countries job to enforce its laws already in place.

    And if the country has those laws in place but doesn't have the infrastructure to enforce those laws, or has police of judicary that are easily bribed?

    The age of consent in Thailand your example is 15 just like Colorado. What is wrong with having "having vaginal, anal and oral sex" with a 15 year old if it is legal?

    Your lack of honesty is depressing; I specified a 14 year-old sold into slavery. As you cannot (without seeming reprehensible) condemn sex-tourism laws using that example you simply change the argument to one I did not make.

    With your talk of sovreign states et. al. you ignore the rights of humans to be treated a certain way even if they come from a country that doesn't afford them protections they should have. So, to you, a country's sovreignty is more important than human rights? I don;t really think you think that, but I could be wrong.

    And the examples you give really reveal how little you've thought about this subject. Someone smoking pot on holiday is only (arguably) harmning THEMSELVES. Someone paying to have sex with a child sold into or kept as a slave whilst they are on holiday is harming ANOTHER. Clear enough difference?

    These laws do not prevent abuse or exploitation of children. They just declare everything abuse if it is under a certain age. They are doing it because it politically feels good.

    If we could PREVENT abuse it would be wonderful. As we can't, trying to protect against abuse has to do.

    Also arrange marriages are not wrong in fact it has been practices for thousands of years and people are still thriving in places that practice them.

    It is very easy for a Westerner to feel fine with illiterate girls being married-off to men they don't know, and whom they will have to obey for the rest of their lives. I happen to think that that is wrong. I care more for the person than the damn laws in another country used to dehumanise and disenfranchise women.

    Face it you are just in a gruff with me because I tell it like it is and I am not so elitist or idealistic.

    No, I am 'gruff' with you because you don't know what you are talking about to the extent your arguments are offensive; if they aren't offensive why did you change the details of the example I gave to make it look like you are reasonable?

    Most of these laws age of consent laws do zero good.

    Of course, you will have a complete inability to back up your opinion with facts.

    It is like declaring spam a crime.

    Are you seriously comparing the rape of minors (sex without consent is rape and minors can't give informed consent) to sending spam email? Think XQ, think! That's one of the things you have to learn how to do if you leave a cult.

    Addadon if you wish explain in detail how a 15 year old having consensual sex with a 15 year old should be legal, but a 15 year old having consensual sex with a 30 year old should be illegal.

    The key word is consensual. 15 year-olds are similarly experienced; there will be a spectrum of abilites etc., but normally if two 15 year-old have sex it is a largely mutual affair.

    A 30 year-old is far more experienced. It is quite possible for a 30 year-old to specifically target 15 year-olds and use their age and experience to get them into sitautions the 15 year-old would not otherwise want. Whilst there would be some occasions where there would be informed consent, often there wouldn't be, it would just be a young person being exploited by an older one.

    If you are happy with a future daughter of yours being persuaded to have sex by some adolescent-chasing 30 year-old, and regretting it bitterly afterwards, if you're okay with older people exploiting younger people for sex, fine. That's your choice. I'd rather try and look after the young people.

    Amusingly, evil bad wicked Holland has a legal system that would ONLY come into play in that above scenario of yours IF there was a complaint by parents or the child involved. In most of the USA the above scenario would be regarded as statutory rape regardless of whether the 15 year-old 'consented' or not.

    Do you support making sodomy illegal again too? Or abortion? Or interracial marriages? There is no difference with these gap laws. Just more modern porneia.

    Look, why not try and make a decent defence of your arguments instead of using the strawman (and very cultish) technique of trying to attribute (even if it's just by asking view-point questions) arguments to me that I did not nor would make.

    Sodomy between two people exercising infomed consent is non-harmful (or at least less harmful than most extreme sports!). Interracial marriages are non-harmful. Abortion is non-harmful, if done early enough so that the fetus has no real self-awareness.

    An adult taking advantage of a minors sexually IS harmful; do you really want to debate that?

  • czarofmischief
    czarofmischief

    Isn't prostitution legal in Thailand? And isn't something like 30 percent of the population HIV positive? Aren't there thousands of women sold into sexual slavery every year over there?

    Nope, ban the business. It's bad for the moral climate. Women who sell their vaginas don't profit, their pimps do. Legalizing the pimps only makes them work their girls harder. You can't control a business like prostitution. You can't regulate it. And the consequences are severe beyond belief.

    There is one, ONE, legal brothel in Nevada. I wonder about HIV rates at that place.

    CZAR

  • Abaddon
    Abaddon

    Hi czar:

    Isn't prostitution legal in Thailand?

    Over 18, yes.

    And isn't something like 30 percent of the population HIV positive?

    2001 estimate was 1.8% of the population (NationMaster).

    I don't think Aren't there thousands of women sold into sexual slavery every year over there? Or as good as

    Yes. http://www.anti-slavery.com/today/background/thailand.jas.htm

    Nope, ban the business. It's bad for the moral climate.

    What, sex is bad for the moral climate? Or prostitution is bad for the moral climate? Or prostitution when associated with people trafficing is bad for the moral climate?

    Women who sell their vaginas don't profit, their pimps do.

    Tell that to the accountants submitting the tax forms of prostitutes in countries where there is a legal framework that provides protection.

    Legalizing the pimps only makes them work their girls harder.

    Where on Earth did anyone talk about legalising pimps? I just think a woman or man should be free (without fear of injury or profit skimming by 'protectors') to have sex for money. What reasoning do you give to support restricitng an individual's rights in this respect?

    You can't control a business like prostitution.

    Correct. You can create a legislative framework that minimises the damage of an inevitable activity.

    You can't regulate it.

    Wrong, as is shown by the countries that have.

    And the consequences are severe beyond belief.

    What, the consequences of regulated prostitution in a developed country are severe beyond belief? Or are you saying that under all circumstances the consequences of prostitution are severe beyond belief?

    There is one, ONE, legal brothel in Nevada. I wonder about HIV rates at that place.

    Check your facts; 1/ there's more than ONE, 2/ As part of it being legal includes (or should in any sane system) a requirement to use condoms and have medicals, there is probably a lower rate of HIV infection at that brothel per act of intercourse than at your local night club.

    Also, if women selling their vaginas is intrinsically wrong (I don't see any logic behind that assumption but there you go), what is the moral stance on selling guns today?

  • Big Tex
    Big Tex

    We've had prostitution throughout time, off the top of my head I can't think of a culture or civlization that managed to ban it completely.

    Let's go ahead and legalize it. Apply some government bureaucracy, tax the hell out of it and get some much needed health benefits to society in general. Set standards of care for the prostitutes themselves and make the brothel/business responsible for providing reasonably sanitary conditions for both the prostitute and the customer.

    Potential advantages could be numerous: 1) hundreds of millions of dollars in tax revenue (could be used to help balance the budget); 2) risk of HIV, STDs, etc. to both parties (and to public at large) would decrease; 3) I would think exploitation of underage girls would be more difficult in this type of regulated environment; 4) a better life for the prostitutes themselves as they would have recourse for abusive treatment.

    To my way of thinking, the sex industry is already out there and will continue to be, so why not legitimize it, regulate it and provide a safer environment? I don't really see much of a downside.

  • blondie
    blondie

    Just a point that I think has not been emphasized, prostitution also includes men selling their "bodies" to either women or other men, a long historical institution. I have found that many men can be accepting of female prostitution but find male prostituion abhorrent.

    I would rather these people had other ways to earn money.

    Blondie

  • lilsx1
    lilsx1

    Maybe I am old fashioned but I think that society has become so disgusting BECAUSE OF all this freedom and acceptance of such things. When I was a kid I didn't really understand what sex entailed!!! I just knew of it and otherwise stuck to playing with dolls... Anyway - I think that in no circumstance should a 12 year old be allowed to have sex in the eyes of the law. They aren't even through puberty yet!!! Sex is more than just a fun act. As far as the prostitution law - I would say outlaw it but it is also a free choice and I guess I don't care either way what they do about that! At least stick up for the children though - a 12 year old is still just a baby!!! Regardless of their maturity level!

  • ColdRedRain
    ColdRedRain
    16 sounds resonable along with that being the voting and drinking age.

    Condisering that most 16 year olds couldn't even place Washington, DC on a map, this is a stupid idea. Wait until they get out of school and form their own opinions on politics instead of having teachers shovel their opinions in their heads. I agree, the drinking age should be lowered, but not to 16, and you should only be allowed to drink in bars when you're 18, not buy liquor.

  • L_A_Big_Dawg
    L_A_Big_Dawg

    Ruth Bader Ginsberg....wasn't she appointed by President Clinton?

    Another reason for me to vote Republican (though I would rather vote Libertarian, for a true change).

    LABD

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