Hi True North,
It took me 5 years to get to this point. I feel he has been in this "funk" of not being here or there. I was also really afraid that one day he would go back, and where does that leave me. I made the common mistake of thinking he is having doubts I can help him. If he loves me he will see. Boy it's true love does not conquer all! What has helped me is hearing other peoples stories. Those who were/are married with spouses and children still in it. That is horrible! I also learned to trust my gut feeling which all along was telling me this was wrong! I think the key is he didnt leave because he wanted to. He was disfellowshipped, and views the elders who did that as being to harsh. He also bought that he was doomed after he was disfellowshipped. Never bothered to make friends because he said he was use to being alone, and he trusts no one. This baggage is just too much. I was starting to be unhappy, and I couldn't deal with it anymore.