Our congregation bought a piece of property in the country, about a 20-30 minute drive from where I lived. . After the Hall was built it was quite stressful for me as I hate driving in the dark, I just don't see well at night. All that is elevated by driving on an old country road with no streetlights, and at the time I had 3 small children and an old car. I drove the speed limit, which was 45mph and everyone passed me.When I arrived at the Hall the elders counseled me on driving too slow as I would be blood-guilty for all of the accidents I would cause. After that I started pulling into a gas station about half way there and let every go ahead of me. I'd always come in a few minutes late and leave a few minutes early to beat the crowds. That hall was sold a couple of years later.
After I was df'd, I met my now husband and we began talking about the bible. He loved what he was learning and wanted to study the bible with a brother. After we were married, we had a meeting with the elders, and my husband was accused of being guilty by association with me. Guilty of what we were never told, we met after I was df'd. There was a group of apostates in TN that the elders told us we belonged to. We had no clue what they were talking about. My husband wanted a study and I wanted to get reinstated, neither thing happened.
There are many things that happened during my decades at the hall, but honestly, I don't blame most of them, I feel that most of the brothers aren't qualified to be elders, as they can't handle the responsibility. I have stopped feeling hurt, now I just feel sorry.