When I was fresh out of the borg, my JW family backed right off, and I in turn felt that this was the right thing to do and backed off them as well.
But, as time went on I was the one that changed and was in their faces.
My mother has been Df twice and was given the true dub treatment by us kids.
She has developed her own balance on the matter altho it's screwed up at times.
Since my departure my sister Da'd and my brother and other sister are inactive. In mom's eyes we are all out of the "troof", but she maintains and continues contact despite the lifestyles we now have.
An interesting conversation came up between her and my partner's JW uncle & aunt.
The aunt question mom about whether she should have contact with me and my family.
Her response was that the grandchildren aren't Df and shouldn't be shunned, in fact she feels justified in keeping contact with all her kids so that we know the door is always open for any of us to return to the fold.
My mother has her funny ways about things and does not go with the hardline borg mentality on it.
She knows of an elder's wife who regrets shunning her Df son who killed himself many years ago.
Kep