ONLY when I talk to JWs does the phrase WWJD come to mind.
When my sister justifies her shunning of our parent (and the shunning by the cong members) I simply say "that is wrong. I think that is appalling behaviour. It's not christian. It's not Christ-like. No way can imagine Jesus treating anyone that way."
Her eyes got big and she said: "It's in the Bible. It's what we have to do." I responded: No it isn't. No you don't. It's wrong. Jesus would not do that."
She drops the conversation because she realizes that we are treading near subversive topics. LOL. And then I don't hear from her for several months.
It bothers me but for me I prefer to keep the door a little bit open rather than force her to dig her heals in and possibly expose me for the apostate that I am. But then, I'm officially just a fader, so can really only imagine how it is to be on the receiving end of the full shunning experience. Be true to your self, or self-sacrificing in hopes that the family wakes up. Really a no-win situation. I think *you* lose either way. Guess you have to try to guess which 'evil' or injustice you can live with for the duration.
Sorry. Not much help from me, I think.
-Aude.