I wanted to bump this thread and ask for advise and mature discussion without this becoming dirty. I am having a similar problem in my marriage of over 20+ years. I have talked with the Mrs.es about the lack of intimacy in our marriage and she told me that she was ok for me to (the Maa word) myself? NOT that I share the WT's view of (the Maa word), but, I was somewhat shocked by my wife suggesting this as a solution. WThell.
She is in her late 40's. Is this a normal stage for women? I work hard to provide for my family and have a good job; I have a beautiful intelligent teenage daughter as a result of our marriage. My wife is still attractive, and I have maintained myself physically also and am not grossly overweight or bald etc.
My wife is and has always been very easy to live with and not jealous of other women, (although,I don't give her any reason to be jealous). However, from the beginning of our marriage she has historically not been overly interested in sexual relations. The first year of marriage was in Bethell, yes, a bad decision made by me. But it did give her the opportunity to establish herself independently from her mother.
She is not financially demanding, she is frugal, loving, carries good conversation, is not argumentative, nor judgemental towards me. She understood when I discussed and explained to her my new position about the teachings of JW's. Within 6 months she had stop attending the meetings also . I encouraged her to go to the community college to become an RN and she recently graduated and now has a job at the hospital as a Registered Nurse. She is a hard worker and now she does contribute to the finances of our family.
Not that I have discussed my personal problem with men on the job, but I have listened to their stories, and there are several that have moved their wifes out and either divorced or separated them when sexual intimacy stopped.
I am not fond of the idea, but I have given some thought to seeking from outside the marrage sexual intimacy. I am still an attractive funny man, and if I pressed the matter I'm sure that there would be suitors to have relations with. The Mrs.es even mentioned something about being careful not to get a STD.
What should I do? I am not fond of the roommate companionship that I have.