The last time I spoke with my mom was the middle of October.
I called her that time.
Many of you are familiar with the relationship problems I’ve had with my parents since I quit going to meetings almost a year ago. For those of you who aren’t familiar with the situation, you can do a search by clicking on the paper icon under my name to read up on what’s been going on.
Anyway things were getting worse and worse and nothing good was coming from our discussions or letters.
Since I was the one who called her last, I decided to see how long it would take for my parents to get a hold of me the next time.
My mom even told me in the past that she wanted to limit her association with me. I am not DF’d or Da’d.
Months pass and I finally get a message on my machine last night from my mother.
So I returned her call and we just chatted and I caught her up on her grandchildren.
She told me that she had something to discuss with me before she let me talk to my father.
She said, “I want to know how my parents got the idea that we have had a falling out?
She took me by surprise since the rest of the conversation had been so non- controversial.
Anyway, I said, “I don’t know what you are talking about, I have never told my grandparents that we have had a falling out!
(A little background for you, my grandparents are not JWs and have never been favorable.)
My mother then said, “are you sure you haven’t said ANYTHING that would cause them to think we had a falling out?”
I said, “mom, every time I speak to or write my grandparent they want to know when the last time was that I have heard from you. They also know I no longer attend meetings and that you are very disappointed that I have chosen to reject the way you brought me up.
They know we aren’t as close as we used to be.”
She said, “ I know you believe this is a cult but I don’t care what you believe, they are MY parents and I want you to leave them out of this!”
My mother is not a reasonable person and I did feel like fighting so I just said, “I would never purposely say anything that would cause problems in your relationship with your parents, besides they already have their opinions about the witnesses anyway.”
She then proceeded to say this,
“ I want you to know that all those years you were growing up and you weren’t able to be close to your grandparents and you didn’t get to see them very much had ABSOLUTLY NOTHING TO DO WITH US BEING JEHOVAHS WITNESSES! DO YOU UNDERSTAND? NOTHING WHATSOEVER!!”
I ignored that statement because I didn’t know what to say because that was the biggest lie I have ever heard!
I just said, “Mom you know we aren’t as close as we used to be there’s no denying that.”
We are just about to end our conversation when I say “ you told me that under the circumstances it would be best if we don’t have close contact and I think that is a good idea because I don’t want to cause you stress.”
She then says, “I completely agree.”
So she doesn’t want to have much to do with me even though we used to be very close.
I will not lie to my grandparents about the nature of my relationship with my parents like she wants me too!!
What a hypocrite!!
She's just upset because she has been being dishonest and misleading her parents while I tell them how it really is.
Ranchette